The narcissist is a mirror of the people he wants to target

His life and his interests and hobbies always changed depending on his main friends or love interests. I always felt like neither of the narcissists I married had their own personalities. The first narcissist was more covert–he was not so outwardly aggressive with his narcissistic tendencies–and the other was more overt–there was no missing his … Read more

We learn to take responsibility for the narcissist’s behavior even though it doesn’t feel right

  Now, I look back and can’t believe I pathetically let him dictate how I should be, I can’t believe I took responsibility for his behavior, I can’t believe I didn’t put my foot down at the first signs of controlling behavior. But it happened. That’s the way abuse works. The abuser’s swinging behavior from … Read more