From my life experiences that I’m writing: “He started calling me multiple times a day—on my work breaks, lunch after work and more. I actually asked him not to call so much because it was keeping me from getting things done. He continued to tell me how great I was. I remember driving in my … Read more
His life and his interests and hobbies always changed depending on his main friends or love interests. I always felt like neither of the narcissists I married had their own personalities. The first narcissist was more covert–he was not so outwardly aggressive with his narcissistic tendencies–and the other was more overt–there was no missing his … Read more
Well, it’s that time of year when narcissistic mothers escalate their games. They love to destroy holidays and birthdays. They want to drag down anyone who is happy or relaxed using drama to bring attention back on themselves. Time with relatives also gives them a good chance to triangulate fights between people or smear you … Read more
Another one of my memories that I typed out from my first marriage to a narcissist. He didn’t want me to have a job, but he yelled that I was lazy if I didn’t do enough around the house, (that I kept spotless!) He’d call me over and over all day to check up and … Read more
Another story I found. I wrote this not long after leaving my first narcissist husband, (before I knew he was a narcissist.) I was writing what had happened to me as part of therapy. On top of that, I was homesick. I don’t have the best family, or even a family that I really like, but … Read more
While going through old files, I found a very long document I’d typed out right after I left my first narcissist husband. I didn’t even know he was a narcissist then. I knew he’d been emotionally and verbally abusive and that the things he said to me made so little sense I thought I was … Read more
Living with abuse can make a woman feel like she is going crazy. My experiences with normal relationships and normal people had not prepared me for the hurricane that was going to come rushing through my head destroying everything I expected and believed in.
Now, I look back and can’t believe I pathetically let him dictate how I should be, I can’t believe I took responsibility for his behavior, I can’t believe I didn’t put my foot down at the first signs of controlling behavior. But it happened. That’s the way abuse works. The abuser’s swinging behavior from … Read more
Unfortunately, his extreme need for praise and validation was never something I could fulfill no matter how hard I tried. he was so great most of the time, that I took full responsibility for the times he wasn’t great. If he was acting strange, it must be my fault since he was such a great … Read more
Don’t spend another minute thinking of your ex-narcissist today. They’ve already wasted too much of your time. There are so many more pleasant things to think about!