The narcissist wants to win over all of your friends and family, and will stop at nothing to do it. Your friends and family may think it’s harmless to stay in touch with the narcissist, but they have no idea what a “win” it is in the narcissist’s mind when the narcissist knows he or she is stealing your support system. There is no middle-ground after a relationship with narcissistic abuse. Anyone who chooses to be friends with the narcissist or ride the fence is not your friend.