I’ve blogged before about how narcissists are not interested in meeting their responsibilities or re-paying their debts. In fact, they feel entitled to take what they want and they don’t see anything wrong with that.
Today, I was flipping through TV channels and caught a bit of a show that really showed this quality. I don’t know if the person was really a narcissist or not, but it was definitely narcissistic behavior. It was on one of those court shows, (that supposedly has real judges and cases,) and the plaintiff was suing the defendant for $700 for a loan that was not repaid. I guess that’s not unusual, but it was the defendant’s attitude that really struck me. She has borrowed the money to pay her utility bills so she could get new service turned on in her apartment that she wanted to rent, so the plaintiff gave her $700 to do it to help her with a real need. But…so did several other people. I just caught the end, so I don’t know how many people it was, but this person had no problem asking multiple people for help paying her utility bills and keeping the money from all of them! She even told the judge that, and didn’t seem to think there was anything wrong with it. In fact, when the judge asked her why she took money from more than one person when she didn’t really need any more for her bill, she blamed the plaintiff for giving her the money by saying, “well she gave it to me.”
That’s right. In narcissist world, it is YOUR fault if you fall for their schemes, (which inspires me to write a whole other blog of first-hand experiences!) It’s as if this young woman thought if the person who gave her the money under false pretenses was dumb enough to do it, then it was her own fault that the defendant conned her and kept the money. Their logic is amazing, isn’t it? Perhaps the defendant wasn’t a true narcissist, but that is definitely a behavior and a thought pattern you will find with narcissists. They feel entitled to be treated in a special way, and they lack empathy. For us normal people, we wouldn’t think of doing that, and we would try to pay the money back instead of keeping it, but narcissists don’t think the way we do.