To tell or not to tell after narcissistic abuse

There are many different views on whether or not an abuse victim should talk about what happened. I personally think we should talk, and in an ideal world, the abuser would be held accountable. However, speaking out definitely has consequences as I have learned the hard way. All morning I’ve been thinking about the reasons … Read more

Flying monkeys never pay attention to the fact that the narcissist’s stories don’t line up

The ability of the narcissist to lie and lie and lie some more–telling conflicting stories that never match up–yet still convince the flying monkeys to believe the lies still surprises me. It’s like they completely take over their enablers’ minds, and sometimes I even wonder if they don’t have some kind of supernatural or magical help … Read more

How a narcissistic parent treats the golden child vs the scapegoat

Aren’t I lucky? Neither of my parents was healthy and both were narcissistic in some ways. Yay me. While I was my mother’s only child, my dad re-married and had a second daughter. When he started his new family, I was discarded and kicked out of my paternal family as if I’d never been born. … Read more

Apathetic people are the narcissist’s best friends

I’ve said many times that I think we should shun repeat abusers–especially narcissists. Even if someone doesn’t hurt me, if I know they hurt others, I don’t want to encourage them. I want to avoid them! Furthermore, when onlookers stay silent about abuse, the narcissist believes that means they condone or even support his or … Read more