People will usually believe an abuse victim who has “proof” in the form of bruises or broken bones, but it’s not easy to “prove” that one has been emotionally, verbally, mentally or financially abused. As a result, so many of us who were tormented by an aggressive, violent and vicious narcissist are disbelieved when we … Read more
You know, we are supposed to believe that everything gets better again post-narcissist, and that is mostly true; however, I feel like a part of my childish dreams died for good–a bit of idealism, belief in fairy-tales, hope for a soulmate…all kinds of romantic ideas. A therapist once told me that I would heal, but … Read more
I have a subscription to Reader’s Digest, and quite often, I find little excerpts from books or anecdotes that get me thinking about life or teach me quick lessons. Today, I read a section from a book that included a mother’s/writer’s list of rules for her own parenting. It was written in 1952 by Susan … Read more
When you first escape from a narcissist, it seems so important for people to believe you and see the truth. Maybe they will one day, maybe they won’t. The important thing is that YOU know your truth and YOU get so strong and confident that it doesn’t matter anymore.
I know not every person who ends up with a narcissist has low self-esteem. Narcissists also like compassionate, empathetic people and people who have a lot going for them. The narcissist knows that an empath will give them the benefit of the doubt, and the narcissist wants to “own” all the good things that happy, … Read more
A narcissist will steal your car, then blame you when they get in a wreck.
For some reason, my first post on flying monkeys is my most read page ever. I guess we all hate dealing with the monkeys! For those who aren’t aware, flying monkeys are people that a narcissist manipulates into bullying their target. They will go after a third party and attack that person completely based on … Read more
Today’s post is about one of my pet peeves that isn’t totally related to narcissists, but is narcissistic in many ways. It is about copyright theft of intellectual property. There is a common myth on the internet that everything you see is yours for the taking. People download songs, they do a Google image search … Read more
No one can ever really understand what it is like to live with a narcissist or sociopath unless they have been there too. For that reason, many victims of predators cannot get the validation and support they need, and in fact, many good people will see the victim’s negative traits, (such as anger, frustration and … Read more
Anger I think this has been my biggest hurdle to overcome. After dealing with a sociopath, I have had so many horrible, horrible things happen to me–from the abuse by the sociopath to the abuse by his enablers to watching my false friends fall under his spell and stab me in the back. I … Read more