Even after I cut contact with my narcopath abuser and blocked him every way I possibly could, he still knew every move I made. His enablers were very dedicated to stalking me, and every time I thought I knew who was reporting back, I would block them. Still, he knew everything I did. I came to realize that when you are dealing with a very charming sociopath who is determined to convince good people that he is a victim…he’s not going to stop. I cut my Facebook friends list to nearly no one. I left most of the groups and pages where I used to post and I blocked anyone who seemed the least bit friendly with the abuser.
The narcopath used the reality that I was trying to protect myself from him to tell everyone I was crazy and mad and had a bad attitude. He told people I was blocking so much because I was a narcissist and didn’t want to hear other points of view. Some of his flying monkeys started saying that clearly I was the problem because I disliked everyone.
I never bothered to put them straight, but the truth is, if I was the problem–if I was the sociopath–*I* would have been the one they believed. I would have been the one campaigning and charming them. I would have been the one who felt free to be friends with anyone I wanted. I would have been the one recruiting supporters and getting their attention.
Instead, because I was the victim and had reason to fear,
I was making my world smaller to protect myself.