Ever notice that a narcissist rarely has hobbies, interests or passions of their own? Who they are depends on who they are trying to fool.
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My narcopath “borrowed” all of my hobbies and then tried to one-up me or prove that she did them before she met me. Then she would project her jealousy on me. Of course at the time I didn’t realize what was going on, just that it was odd and uncomfortable, like she was trying on my life or something.
Now I am deep in the mire of the smear campaign and just figuring out that she is truly a narcissist. It’s so clear now, looking back. How could I miss it? How do her flying monkeys still miss it? I’m right where she wants me and it is sickening to feel so powerless and bamboozled.
Thank you for your blog. I’m learning a lot here.
Hi Rachel,
Thank you for your post. I know the feeling of stupidness and hopelessness. I have been in an explosive relationship with a covert narc for over 11 years we have 3 children and I feel so trapped. Every time I make a clean break with the kids he lies and manipulates me and I end up caught back up in his web of lies. I feel so overwelmed sometimes I wish I wasn’t here and that at least then I would be at peace not having to deal with him and this mess of an unhappy life. Sorry I’m just so down ATM coz I’m back in this situation and I’m frustrated hurt and disappointed with myself
Hi Rachel,
Covert narcs are the worst because they are so well disguised. It takes a while before we can manage to break free and go no contact for good but you will get there in time. It took me several times of going back myself so i know how defeating that can feel. But don’t let it get you down. Just promise yourself that the next time you really make a clean break with no contact as much as possible.
I wish you well and hope for your best life for you and your children.
My narcopath “borrowed” all of my hobbies and then tried to one-up me or prove that she did them before she met me. Then she would project her jealousy on me. Of course at the time I didn’t realize what was going on, just that it was odd and uncomfortable, like she was trying on my life or something.
Now I am deep in the mire of the smear campaign and just figuring out that she is truly a narcissist. It’s so clear now, looking back. How could I miss it? How do her flying monkeys still miss it? I’m right where she wants me and it is sickening to feel so powerless and bamboozled.
Thank you for your blog. I’m learning a lot here.
Hi Rachel,
Thank you for your post. I know the feeling of stupidness and hopelessness. I have been in an explosive relationship with a covert narc for over 11 years we have 3 children and I feel so trapped. Every time I make a clean break with the kids he lies and manipulates me and I end up caught back up in his web of lies. I feel so overwelmed sometimes I wish I wasn’t here and that at least then I would be at peace not having to deal with him and this mess of an unhappy life. Sorry I’m just so down ATM coz I’m back in this situation and I’m frustrated hurt and disappointed with myself
Hi Rachel,
Covert narcs are the worst because they are so well disguised. It takes a while before we can manage to break free and go no contact for good but you will get there in time. It took me several times of going back myself so i know how defeating that can feel. But don’t let it get you down. Just promise yourself that the next time you really make a clean break with no contact as much as possible.
I wish you well and hope for your best life for you and your children.