Month: February 2016
No. I didn’t “choose” to marry a narcissist
People who have been abused by narcissists hear all kinds of ridiculous and cruel comments from people who have no clue. I’ve been told that it’s my fault I was abused because I married the narcopath, that it’s worse for me to talk about the abuse than it was for him to abuse me, that … Read more
An outsider’s view of why people often prefer to stay friends with the abuser
If you have been abused by a narcissist, you probably know that when you tried to tell people your story of the abuse, people were more likely to believe and support the abuser because they didn’t want to hear what you had to say. Morally, this doesn’t make sense to us, because we can’t understand why … Read more
If my ex is so great…
To those who attack me on behalf of my abuser: I say he abused me. He degraded me. He attacked and controlled me. He intimidated me. He insulted me. He hurt me badly. He almost killed me. I say he is a sociopath. He says I’m crazy. You say I’m a liar and a slanderer. … Read more
Narcissists will tag-team to attack you–their common enemy
Many of us have more than one narcissist in our lives. That’s the way it often goes. Narcissists are drawn to certain types of people, and they definitely recognize someone who has already been “primed” through previous abuse. So it’s no wonder that I grew up with a narcissist mother and married an even worse … Read more
When the narcissist attacks you–he reveals how he sees himself
When I first met the narcopath, he was extremely charming, (of course.) But I felt like something was weird, and I couldn’t put my finger on it. Even before I had any clue what narcissists and sociopaths were like, I knew something was off. I finally asked some acquaintances what they thought of him, and I got … Read more
Narcissistic egos–they think they know more than the professionals
If you have dealt with a narcissist, you’ve probably noticed that they have to be right at all costs. I swear, they disagree for the sake of disagreeing even if they know they aren’t right! I can’t count the times that I was just having a normal conversation with the narcopath and he just exploded … Read more
For those who are struggling financially after leaving the narc…
I know for those of us who have children with a narcissist, receiving child support is often a rare event. It’s just another symptom of narcissism. They don’t feel like they should meet their obligations, plus they want to control us by keeping us financially dependent on their whims. Too many of us have been … Read more
The narcissist wants to make you feel worthless so you don’t escape
Narcissists have a sneaky way of disabling us. Sometimes, we don’t even realize that we are internalizing the lies they tell us about ourselves, and we come to believe those lies are true. We believe them so much, that we get stuck. When I was a kid, my mother repeatedly told me I was not … Read more