The other day, I was reading a thread on Facebook about women’s frustration with men who send them “dick pics” or nude photos they never wanted to see. This is indeed a form of sexual harassment. It’s gross. It’s a violation, and for many people, it is a trigger. So I was reading this discussion in a Christian singles group. Most people emphasized with the woman who was venting. We get it. Many of the men were upset that other men were doing this, and many of the women agreed that they didn’t like it. Great! I don’t like it either. It’s creepy!
Then there were the people who got upset because the serious thread was ruining the fun of the group. They just wanted silly fun threads! None of that serious stuff about sexual violations! One woman even made a new post about how she was leaving the group because the thread wasn’t fun and she didn’t want to hear about harassment. She whined that it was someone else’s problem and they should just keep it to themselves. Uggh.
Guess what? Life isn’t always super fun. There are really horrible things happening in the world. Maybe getting a nude photo from a stranger isn’t the worst thing that can happen to a person, but it is still not acceptable behavior, and it is okay to recognize that it’s not. In fact, in an ideal world, I believe we would hold the creeper accountable!
But unfortunately, many people want to hide their heads when someone else is being targeted. I can understand that to a point. Do I really want to get caught up defending someone else when I can just enjoy my own life and tune out? Honestly, I cannot fight everyone’s battle. However, I can validate them and stand up and say “that is NOT right.” I can put my jokes and fun on hold for a minute to speak out against abusive behavior. In fact, as long as we leave victims hanging on their own, abuse will continue. We are a part of this society, and if we want it to be safer for everyone, we have to stand up for what is right, and stand against what is wrong. We can’t save everyone, but we can do our parts to show others that we aren’t going to allow bad behavior.
This applies not just to naked pictures on the internet, but to unacceptable behavior everywhere. If we know someone is being violated, we should never tell them to shut up and keep it to themselves. We might not be able to offer all the help we need, but there is never any reason to keep abuse a secret. It might be just one person’s private life, but abuse is ALL of our business.