Some things church leaders should understand about abuse

I attend a church that emphasizes the importance of family–more so than any other church I’ve ever attended. This means that, not only do I hear the regular speeches about forgiving my abusive mother, but I hear it even more, and from a religious point of view. “Families are forever.” Most of these people mean … Read more

Profile of a pro-social sociopath–how they get away with public bullying

My sociopath ex’s main flying monkey is so severe and manipulative, that I’m convinced she is a sociopath too. I’m not the only one she bullies, although I seem to be her main target. (It is not unlike a sociopath to pick a main target to stalk and harass.) She bullies many others, yet she … Read more

Narcissists love to re-write history

Narcissists rarely tell the truth, but they are really good at lying and changing history so that their lies sound like truth. They use bits of reality, they transpose people and facts, and they come out with a story that sounds incredibly believable to anyone who hears it. When you get frustrated and try to … Read more

The sociopath’s supporters only see what the sociopath lets them see

One of my sociopath ex’s flying monkeys has been so vicious and determined to destroy me, that I can only accept that she is a sociopath herself. Many people love her…but many people don’t. Just as with all personality-disordered bullies who can use masks, people’s opinions of her are sharply divided depending on whether or … Read more