For me, the hardest part of being abused by a narcissist was trying to tell people what had happened only to find they were under the narcissist’s thrall and didn’t believe me. To go through such extreme torment at the hands of a Jekyll and Hyde and not be validated or supported was the worst. … Read more
As a child and young adult, I had many unusual symptoms that doctors couldn’t really explain. I had bad psoriasis, I had daily headaches, I had anxiety and panic attacks, I had chronic migraines, I had ulcers and dysphagia, I was frequently depressed, I was painfully shy with no self-esteem, and I was bullied badly … Read more
Given that narcissists are controlling, charming and often bright, there are many narcissistic bosses out there. Oddly enough, I’ve only encountered one that I know of, and I had no idea what narcissism was back then. However, looking back, it sure explains why she gave me such a hard time. And it makes sense, because … Read more
Abuse continues because… victims, especially women, are labeled “crazy” or “dramatic” when they speak out victims are scared their abusers will hurt them witnesses stay quiet to avoid retaliation some people actually think abuse is okay judges and police are not well-educated about it the public is not well-educated about it abusers lie vulnerable people make good … Read more
The narcissist is never going to turn into a prince!
You cannot fix a narcissist. You can only be responsible for yourself. They’ve already shown you what they are and it isn’t going to change. You can’t help the narcissist and you can’t make them become a good person. Trying to fix them will only drive you crazy. All you can do is leave the situation … Read more
As a child, I always knew in my heart that the abuse was wrong, but I suffered from confusion and frustration when others tried to tell me it wasn’t.
Hope is good…unless you are hoping a narcissist will change. That’s one thing that’s never going to happen.
Many people think they are being polite, caring, Christian or kind when they refuse to speak about the narcissist’s abuse. They aren’t. They are enabling a predator and giving him silent approval to continue hurting people.
For you, your friends and family are people you care about, share things with and turn to for support. For the narcissist in your life, they are pawns to “win.” The narcissist doesn’t try to win over your friends because he likes them and wants to get to know them. He goes after them because … Read more