Hope is good…unless you are hoping a narcissist will change. That’s one thing that’s never going to happen.
Many people think they are being polite, caring, Christian or kind when they refuse to speak about the narcissist’s abuse. They aren’t. They are enabling a predator and giving him silent approval to continue hurting people.
For you, your friends and family are people you care about, share things with and turn to for support. For the narcissist in your life, they are pawns to “win.” The narcissist doesn’t try to win over your friends because he likes them and wants to get to know them. He goes after them because … Read more
I cannot say it enough. There is no room for a narcissist within your life! The disorder is hard to treat and narcs rarely seek treatment. They simply continue to make you miserable! If there is a narc in your life, get as far away as you can! This should be you…running from the narcissist … Read more
A few days ago, I wrote about not engaging the narcissist. Don’t try to appeal to their sense of fairness or kindness…because they are missing those parts of their personalities! Today, I want to advise you not to escalate the narcissist. There are different types of narcissists. Some are more physically aggressive, some are more emotionally … Read more
Even before you realize it, the narcissist is playing a game to “win” your friends and your family, and destroy your reputation.
The narcissist wants to win over all of your friends and family, and will stop at nothing to do it. Your friends and family may think it’s harmless to stay in touch with the narcissist, but they have no idea what a “win” it is in the narcissist’s mind when the narcissist knows he or … Read more
People are going to judge you. That’s the warm hard truth. Well, if they think the narcissist is so great, they can have a good old time with the narcissist themselves! Here’s one area where you can be very generous about giving something away! From my eBook “Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse: The Warm Hard Truth” … Read more
As an active member of several narcissistic abuse support groups, I often see people post screen shots of their dialogues with their narcissistic abusers. They often argue with their narcissists or defend themselves, or they write heartfelt messages explaining how they feel and how the narcissist is hurting them. DON’T DO THIS!!! It may make … Read more
You can have a bad relationship with some arguments and incompatibility but it will never compare to having a bad relationship with a narcissist. A narcissist will tear your world apart and bring destruction even when you think the relationship is over. From my book The Faces of Narcissistic Abuse: First-Hand Experiences With Narcissists Click … Read more