When Fifty Shades of Grey first started becoming trendy, I rolled my eyes and ignored it. I knew the reviews spoke of poor writing and low quality. I’m a literature fan and don’t typically read romance novels, so I figured this was more junk on the cheap book rack at the grocery store. But as … Read more
Narcissists are manipulative people. They manage to get innocent people to do their bidding, believe their lies and fall under their spell. I’ve seen it happen even to perfectly nice and normal people. Some of the people who attack me on behalf of my narcissist former abuser are otherwise decent people who honestly think they … Read more
We’ve heard about parental alienation, but there’s less commentary on family alienation. It seems to be the hallmark of a narcissistic mother–especially with her daughter. Narcissists of all types are dedicated to discrediting their victims by portraying them as crazy to friends, relatives and acquaintances. They usually start before the victim even knows there is … Read more
Sometimes the people who consider themselves to be good and kind are the most likely to be fooled by a narcissist and the most likely to be angry at the victim for speaking out. In their minds, the victim is the bully for saying “bad” things about the narcissist. Good people want to support justice, … Read more
Be the one who stands against abuse. When others are afraid to upset the abuser, don’t believe how bad it is, support the abuser, don’t want to be bullied for speaking out, don’t want to rock the boat…. Be the one.
My other blog includes many book reviews…and I read a lot of books about narcissistic abuse, crazy people and recovery. Many of these might be helpful for you too: People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys by Mike Bechtle Life Code: The New Rules For Winning in the Real World … Read more
I don’t regret speaking out about abuse. I am only sad that society isn’t ready to listen. As long as no one hears our reality abuse will continue.
For me, the hardest part of being abused by a narcissist was trying to tell people what had happened only to find they were under the narcissist’s thrall and didn’t believe me. To go through such extreme torment at the hands of a Jekyll and Hyde and not be validated or supported was the worst. … Read more
As a child and young adult, I had many unusual symptoms that doctors couldn’t really explain. I had bad psoriasis, I had daily headaches, I had anxiety and panic attacks, I had chronic migraines, I had ulcers and dysphagia, I was frequently depressed, I was painfully shy with no self-esteem, and I was bullied badly … Read more
Abuse continues because… victims, especially women, are labeled “crazy” or “dramatic” when they speak out victims are scared their abusers will hurt them witnesses stay quiet to avoid retaliation some people actually think abuse is okay judges and police are not well-educated about it the public is not well-educated about it abusers lie vulnerable people make good … Read more