The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Four–Lack of Consideration

A relationship where the other person is not considerate of you, your needs, your desires and your feelings is not a good relationship worth keeping. You deserve better! In my last post about Fifty Shades of Grey, I wrote about Christian’s controlling behavior over Ana–telling her how to eat and behave. This time, I will … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Three–Control

In my last blog about Fifty Shades of Grey, I noted that Christian picked Ana partly because she had poor boundaries and seemed timid, while her stronger friend, Kate, knew immediately that he was bad news. In this blog, we move farther into the book as Christian begins controlling Ana and dictating how she should … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Two Boundary Violations

In my first blog analyzing Fifty Shades of Grey, I related how Ana and Christian sized each other up and Ana realized she was dealing with a control freak while Christian realized he’d found an easy target. And that was just in the first chapter! The next few chapters show rapid boundary violations as Christian … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part One

I’ve been blogging a bit about Fifty Shades of Grey and how it is a negative example for “romance.” Yesterday, I gave a summary, but now I want to explain why the book is disturbing. So here I go, page by page/chapter by chapter…. All quotes come from: James, E L (2011-05-25). Fifty Shades of … Read more

Narcissists hurt people…then blame the victims because they did it!

“Narcissists think they are beyond reproach, and they feel entitled to hurt others without consequence. They don’t have empathy for others and they don’t care what they do to others. All narcissists care about is what they want and when they want it! If you are with a man who repeatedly hurts others then blames … Read more

Suggested books for dealing with narcissists and other crazy people

My other blog includes many book reviews…and I read a lot of books about narcissistic abuse, crazy people and recovery. Many of these might be helpful for you too: People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys by Mike Bechtle Life Code: The New Rules For Winning in the Real World … Read more

Now Available! A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator

My third eBook, A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator, is now available! “At the beginning, they can lay on the charm a little too strong. If you are a woman who wants some romance, you might be so blinded, you don’t notice. And frankly, if you are … Read more

Relationships with a narcissists are not like normal relationships

You can have a bad relationship with some arguments and incompatibility but it will never compare to having a bad relationship with a narcissist. A narcissist will tear your world apart and bring destruction even when you think the relationship is over. From my book The Faces of Narcissistic Abuse: First-Hand Experiences With Narcissists Click … Read more

Why we stay with narcissists

Sometimes we stay with narcissists and abusers and others can’t understand why…. From my eBook “The Faces of Narcissistic Abuse: First-Hand Experiences with Narcissists” http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00OZIK2EC “Now sometimes normal people will ask you why you let these things continue to happen. Well, it’s because you want people to treat you well. You try in vain. You … Read more