Author Joanna Moore–Narcissistic Abuse Survivor
Like many people who have children with a narcissist, I have the misfortune of sometimes having to communicate with the narcissist. I gray rock as much as I can. I don’t take the bait when he falsely accuses me, I don’t defend myself and get pulled into his web of lies, I don’t engage in … Read more
Maybe I’m a bit of a killjoy, but whenever I see one of those sappy posts on Facebook about how fantastic all mothers are, I chime in and point out they aren’t. Why? To validate the millions of us who had genuinely horrible mothers! There is this myth that ALL mothers are angelic and want … Read more
Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more
Narcissists do not take anyone seriously but themselves. They do not care about the needs of others, and they do not respect anything you say. No matter how correct you are, they don’t care one bit about YOUR words, your thoughts, or anything you say you want or need for yourself. They only care about … Read more
Oddly enough, I’ve gotten to the point where I can spot the narcopath’s new flying monkeys about as fast as he can! When I first escaped from the narcopath, I tried to maintain my social ties. After all, he was the problem and many of our acquaintances knew he had a history of raging and … Read more
When you choose a straight path and try to do the right thing, people will often mock you for being a “goody two shoes” or a nerd. It’s not always “cool” to do what is right. You might not join in bullying others. You might not choose to get into trouble. You might not fit … Read more
I often think that a lack of respect for others’ boundaries is at the heart of narcissism. Narcissists want to run our lives for us, want to violate our privacy, want to engulf everything about us, and do not care one bit about our choices for ourselves. They will run all over us. Today, I … Read more
Social Rules for Kids-The Top 100 Social Rules Kids Need to Succeed I got this book for my kindergartner the other day. He’s very sweet and naive, but also small for his age which means he could be a target for bullies. I’ve already noticed that he can be far nicer to kids than they … Read more
Sociopaths are 4% of the population according to Martha Stout in her important book The Sociopath Next Door, so on the rare occasion that I suspect I’m talking to a sociopath, I trust my instincts. It’s not that I think everyone is a sociopath, but when I do encounter that one in 25 people, they … Read more
Narcissist mothers are emotional terrorists, but they seem especially obsessed with destroying their daughters and daughters-in-law. Your mother is supposed to be someone you can trust, but narcissist mothers start female rivalries that are worse than anything you will ever experience from the mean girls at school. They will become your biggest bullies. They do … Read more