People who have been abused once are exponentially more likely to be abused again

It is a sad reality that once a person has been abused or assaulted they are MORE likely to be abused or assaulted again. Revictimization rates are very high. People who have been abused repeat patterns. They also develop vulnerable body language or naive coping patterns that make them more susceptible to further abuse. And … Read more

My mother never stopped trying to destroy my relationships

I’m nearing 40 and I have nightmares about my mother. How sad is that? They aren’t about physical violence; they are about the emotional smearing I’ve lived through my whole life. In my nightmares, my mom has always convinced her relatives that I’m a horrible brat. She’s told them untrue things about me and they … Read more

Why you should always report neglect or violence in a relationship…and leave

Narcissists and sociopaths confuse and jumble everything around them. They charm their ways out of trouble, they fool people, they rationalize their bad behavior in ways that seem logical…and they keep getting away with it. So many times, we put up with it for months or years before we finally speak out. Then, people don’t … Read more

Struggling without a narc is still better than being miserable with one

I am completely estranged–by choice–from my dysfunctional, enmeshed, narcissist-laden family. It’s really hard not having a family or a normal support system. It’s also a bit lonely on holidays. I’m a single mom, so I struggle without a bit of help, and I almost never have a day to myself. In the past, I cut … Read more

Predators cast more than one line at a time when fishing for victims

Very recently, I met a new person on Facebook who wanted to talk to me regarding our common experiences with narcissists. Within a few days, I suspected he was a narcissist. Tonight, I realized he was a full-out sociopath and was pulling pretty much the same classic sociopath tricks that my ex narcopath used! Fortunately, I … Read more