Helpful link about predators grooming victims

This link is really focused on protecting children from predators who would groom them for abuse, but it is very similar to the way a narcissist grooms a victim. I found that I recognized situations where my ex narcopath did most of these things to me during the two years he groomed me before he … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Six–Distracted by Flattery

I took a break from analyzing Fifty Shades of Grey but now I’ll continue on. Here are the previous entries: The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part One, Part Two Boundary Violations, Part Three–Control, Part Four–Lack of Consideration, and Part Five–Blinded by Sex All quotes are from James, E L (2011-05-25). Fifty Shades of Grey (Fifty … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Two Boundary Violations

In my first blog analyzing Fifty Shades of Grey, I related how Ana and Christian sized each other up and Ana realized she was dealing with a control freak while Christian realized he’d found an easy target. And that was just in the first chapter! The next few chapters show rapid boundary violations as Christian … Read more

Narcissists hate your normal boundaries–but it’s GOOD to have boundaries

Many of us who grew up in abusive families never learned to set boundaries. Or if we tried, they were repeatedly violated until we felt helpless–like we couldn’t live our own lives. When I was a child, I started to have normal boundaries and I stated what I did and didn’t like, but my narcissistic … Read more