A few words about plagiarism…which is NOT a healthy behavior

My memes must be really inspiring! Today, I saw a page that had blatantly plagiarised one of them. I read it and thought “what in the world? I wrote that!” So I pulled up my version to compare and found that the other page had literally just flipped some of the words then added some … Read more

The narcissist does not want you to escape or be happy

Narcissists love to make us miserable. They enjoy the control they have over our emotions when they bully us, then sometimes play nice, then bully us…. They are in complete control, and we become dependent and desperate for them to just behave themselves. Or…we quit playing their games and leave. Since we can’t change them, … Read more

Don’t Be Afraid to Hit Rock Bottom

As so many of us have learned, recovering from narcissistic abuse is not easy. It’s not a perfect path, either. There are ups and downs. There are breakthroughs and setbacks. It takes years. Sometimes you can feel great for a while, then BOOM! the narcissist notices and makes sure to restart the harassment and smear … Read more

What the court system has taught me about domestic violence

I haven’t been posting much lately because I have been in a great place in life. However, this post is going to be filled with frustrations. It’s not a happy post, but it is reality. There are a lot of us out there who are living with genuine terror, PTSD, anxiety, depression and more after … Read more

How the police and ignorance about domestic violence hurt abuse victims

One of the worst things an abuse victim has to deal with is the invalidation, disbelief and ignorant behaviors from institutions that supposedly exist to help protect us. Too many of us have horror stories about calling the police for help and not getting it…or worse. Revictimization rates are extremely high, and police officers have … Read more

When it comes to abuse, society won’t help. You are on your own

There are some really, hideously ugly truths out there. They aren’t fair, they aren’t right and they aren’t nice…but they are true, and we have no choice but to accept that no matter how much it sickens us. The worst thing I have learned while trying to recover from terrifying abuse is that, while society … Read more

Narcissists will tag-team to attack you–their common enemy

Many of us have more than one narcissist in our lives. That’s the way it often goes. Narcissists are drawn to certain types of people, and they definitely recognize someone who has already been “primed” through previous abuse. So it’s no wonder that I grew up with a narcissist mother and married an even worse … Read more