A true story about head spinning gas lighting

Gaslighting. It’s one of the narcissist’s worst head games. I never even knew the word existed until I heard this song by Steely Dan in 2000:¬†Gaslighting Abbie Gaslight Huh? I had to look it up. Turns out, the term comes from a 1938 play called Gas Light. It’s about a married man who plays around … Read more

If there’s one narcissist…there may be more. You aren’t imagining it!

Sometimes when I tell people I have narcissistic parents, narcissistic relatives, and two narcissist ex husbands, they call me crazy. They assume I’m just imagining narcissists everywhere. They think I’m exaggerating or lying. They think I am the problem. I can kind of see where they are coming from. Seriously, I know that many narcissists?! … Read more

Patience when good doesn’t win right away–Inspired by Star Wars

The other day I wrote about watching Star Wars Episodes I-III for the first time and seeing sociopathy in a main character. I often find examples of narcissism and sociopathy in movies. You know, we often feel very alone after the horrors we’ve dealt with, but there are so many examples in popular culture, that … Read more

The little lies roll right off the narcissist’s tongue…and they serve a purpose

Every narcissist lies. All the time. Lies are essential to their games and the facades they create, and lies come so easily to them. I don’t even think they plan ahead or rehearse. They just open their mouths and the most beautiful, “reasonable,” and believable lies pour out. I used to see my narcissist mother … Read more

Is dealing with a narcissist spiritual warfare?

***Just a big warning: while I usually try not to post too much about religion, this is a religious post and is mostly from my general Christian point of view.*** After dealing with a sociopath for 3.5 years, I think about good and evil, right and wrong, God and Satan, and other ethical issues quite … Read more

The flip side to the smear campaign–the narcissist’s public image campaign

Many of us have endured the narcissist¬†smear campaign. The abuser goes around projecting his or her own behavior on to us, playing victim, and trashing us to anyone who will listen in an effort to distract others from hearing the truth that we KNOW about the narc. And it works pretty well. Most people just … Read more

How abuse can start so slowly that you might not realize you are being abused

Even the strongest person is susceptible because abuse seeps in so slowly. It goes unnoticed until one day you realize that something is seriously wrong and you are no longer sure what or who is wrong or right. If you find yourself noticing weird things early in your relationship and realizing that your partner’s actions … Read more