Narcissists program their enablers to repeat their lies for them. These flying monkeys never question whether or not the stories are true. They just blindly repeat them–sometimes word for word–as if they are true.
Even after I cut contact with my narcopath abuser and blocked him every way I possibly could, he still knew every move I made. His enablers were very dedicated to stalking me, and every time I thought I knew who was reporting back, I would block them. Still, he knew everything I did. I came … Read more
I’ve learned over the years that some people just enjoy being mean. They are proud of it, and they have no desire to change. And it’s not just narcissists. It includes narcissists, sociopaths, flying monkeys, grumps and more. These are the people who never outgrew junior high–the people who get their kicks out of ganging … Read more
Like many people, I have a personal Facebook account, and like many people who have dealt with narcopaths, I have a pretty long list of people I’ve blocked. Many of them are flying monkeys, some of them are enablers, some of them are plain old bullies and some of them are people who show what I now know … Read more
For some reason, my first post on flying monkeys is my most read page ever. I guess we all hate dealing with the monkeys! For those who aren’t aware, flying monkeys are people that a narcissist manipulates into bullying their target. They will go after a third party and attack that person completely based on … Read more
I’m sure I’m not the only one who does this…. Sometimes I fantasize that the flying monkeys and silent onlookers figure out the truth about the narcissist and apologize to me. Not all of the narcissist’s enablers have bullied me like the monkeys have; some of them just didn’t believe me, or shunned me. Many … Read more
There are many different views on whether or not an abuse victim should talk about what happened. I personally think we should talk, and in an ideal world, the abuser would be held accountable. However, speaking out definitely has consequences as I have learned the hard way. All morning I’ve been thinking about the reasons … Read more
The ability of the narcissist to lie and lie and lie some more–telling conflicting stories that never match up–yet still convince the flying monkeys to believe the lies still surprises me. It’s like they completely take over their enablers’ minds, and sometimes I even wonder if they don’t have some kind of supernatural or magical help … Read more
Too many people enable the abuser to continue hurting people through their silence, or worse yet, their defense of the abuser and anger at the victims who speak out.
I’ve said many times that I think we should shun repeat abusers–especially narcissists. Even if someone doesn’t hurt me, if I know they hurt others, I don’t want to encourage them. I want to avoid them! Furthermore, when onlookers stay silent about abuse, the narcissist believes that means they condone or even support his or … Read more