There is no use in trying to reason with people who enjoy being mean

I’ve learned over the years that some people just enjoy being mean. They are proud of it, and they have no desire to change. And it’s not just narcissists. It includes narcissists, sociopaths, flying monkeys, grumps and more. These are the people who never outgrew junior high–the people who get their kicks out of ganging … Read more

Blocking and de-friending narcissists on Facebook

Like many people, I have a personal Facebook account, and like many people who have dealt with narcopaths, I have a pretty long list of people I’ve blocked. Many of them are flying monkeys, some of them are enablers, some of them are plain old bullies and some of them are people who show what I now know … Read more

To tell or not to tell after narcissistic abuse

There are many different views on whether or not an abuse victim should talk about what happened. I personally think we should talk, and in an ideal world, the abuser would be held accountable. However, speaking out definitely has consequences as I have learned the hard way. All morning I’ve been thinking about the reasons … Read more

Flying monkeys never pay attention to the fact that the narcissist’s stories don’t line up

The ability of the narcissist to lie and lie and lie some more–telling conflicting stories that never match up–yet still convince the flying monkeys to believe the lies still surprises me. It’s like they completely take over their enablers’ minds, and sometimes I even wonder if they don’t have some kind of supernatural or magical help … Read more

Apathetic people are the narcissist’s best friends

I’ve said many times that I think we should shun repeat abusers–especially narcissists. Even if someone doesn’t hurt me, if I know they hurt others, I don’t want to encourage them. I want to avoid them! Furthermore, when onlookers stay silent about abuse, the narcissist believes that means they condone or even support his or … Read more

A good book for understanding narcissists, their tricks, and terms for describing them

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family In the world of narcissist support groups, there are a lot of terms that we get used to using. Phrases like “flying monkeys,” “overt and covert narcissists,” “scapegoat and golden child,” and more. People who are just learning … Read more

Are you being used as a flying monkey for a narcissist?

Flying Monkeys! For those who don’t know this term, “flying monkeys” are people that a narcissist uses to do their bidding.  Sometimes, a narcissist will not attack you publicly in any way–which makes them look good–but they are privately telling carefully chosen people how evil and awful you are. They select these people the same … Read more