When people dismiss you as damaged goods

My experience as someone who as endured serious emotional, physical, verbal abuse, and more is something that is part of me. I don’t sit around crying and talking about it all day or every day, but it certainly doesn’t disappear from my memory. Sometimes, if I dwell on it, it still frustrates me that narcissists … Read more

Some things church leaders should understand about abuse

I attend a church that emphasizes the importance of family–more so than any other church I’ve ever attended. This means that, not only do I hear the regular speeches about forgiving my abusive mother, but I hear it even more, and from a religious point of view. “Families are forever.” Most of these people mean … Read more

Trying not to dwell on painful memories of abuse–religion included

Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence, Deluxe Edition A few months ago, I purchased a Christian devotional book that has been a wonderful source of wisdom and help for me. It isn’t specifically about dealing with narcissists. In fact, it’s not about dealing with abuse, bad memories, or painful events in particular. The part … Read more