Sociopaths and narcissists can be mothers, fathers, grandparents, relatives….

Be careful about telling a narcissist’s victim that they have to stay in touch because the narcissist is their mother, father, grandparent, relative, etc… Not every biological parent is capable of being safe or loving. People who are being abused need our support to find safety and peace–not our guilt trips!

Narcissists hate your normal boundaries–but it’s GOOD to have boundaries

Many of us who grew up in abusive families never learned to set boundaries. Or if we tried, they were repeatedly violated until we felt helpless–like we couldn’t live our own lives. When I was a child, I started to have normal boundaries and I stated what I did and didn’t like, but my narcissistic … Read more

Narcissists gaslight you and protect each other

Narcissists gaslight you and protect each other. Last night, for whatever reason, I remembered an incident that happened with  my narcissist mother and her narcissist sister who is even worse. I have always been a pale person and I have a yellowish olive tinge to my skin tone–just like my dad. I don’t tan much, … Read more

Characteristics of Adults Who Were Abused As Children

As a child and young adult, I had many unusual symptoms that doctors couldn’t really explain. I had bad psoriasis, I had daily headaches, I had anxiety and panic attacks, I had chronic migraines, I had ulcers and dysphagia, I was frequently depressed, I was painfully shy with no self-esteem, and I was bullied badly … Read more

Disengage from the narcissist

As an active member of several narcissistic abuse support groups, I often see people post screen shots of their dialogues with their narcissistic abusers. They often argue with their narcissists or defend themselves, or they write heartfelt messages explaining how they feel and how the narcissist is hurting them. DON’T DO THIS!!! It may make … Read more