From my e-Book The Faces of Narcissistic Abuse: First-Hand Experiences with Narcissists My mother started leaving me out of family events, and if I did go to one, relatives made hateful comments to me about how mean I was to her. I was always confused. These people didn’t really know me. They knew her stories. … Read more
Be careful about telling a narcissist’s victim that they have to stay in touch because the narcissist is their mother, father, grandparent, relative, etc… Not every biological parent is capable of being safe or loving. People who are being abused need our support to find safety and peace–not our guilt trips!
Narcissistic families often appear to be close and loving, but in reality they are enmeshed and disrespectful of healthy boundaries. In healthy families, independence is allowed and encouraged.
Many of us who grew up in abusive families never learned to set boundaries. Or if we tried, they were repeatedly violated until we felt helpless–like we couldn’t live our own lives. When I was a child, I started to have normal boundaries and I stated what I did and didn’t like, but my narcissistic … Read more
I wrote this post on my other blog, but it fits here too, so I’ll add a link: Why it can be helpful to “turn the other cheek” at certain times
Narcissists gaslight you and protect each other. Last night, for whatever reason, I remembered an incident that happened with my narcissist mother and her narcissist sister who is even worse. I have always been a pale person and I have a yellowish olive tinge to my skin tone–just like my dad. I don’t tan much, … Read more
Well, it’s that time of year when narcissistic mothers escalate their games. They love to destroy holidays and birthdays. They want to drag down anyone who is happy or relaxed using drama to bring attention back on themselves. Time with relatives also gives them a good chance to triangulate fights between people or smear you … Read more
As a child and young adult, I had many unusual symptoms that doctors couldn’t really explain. I had bad psoriasis, I had daily headaches, I had anxiety and panic attacks, I had chronic migraines, I had ulcers and dysphagia, I was frequently depressed, I was painfully shy with no self-esteem, and I was bullied badly … Read more
As an active member of several narcissistic abuse support groups, I often see people post screen shots of their dialogues with their narcissistic abusers. They often argue with their narcissists or defend themselves, or they write heartfelt messages explaining how they feel and how the narcissist is hurting them. DON’T DO THIS!!! It may make … Read more
You might feel all alone sometimes thinking you are the only one who saw the real narcissist, but there are others out there even if you don’t know it. You are not alone!