We learn to take responsibility for the narcissist’s behavior even though it doesn’t feel right

  Now, I look back and can’t believe I pathetically let him dictate how I should be, I can’t believe I took responsibility for his behavior, I can’t believe I didn’t put my foot down at the first signs of controlling behavior. But it happened. That’s the way abuse works. The abuser’s swinging behavior from … Read more

The hardest part of being abused by a narcissist

For me, the hardest part of being abused by a narcissist was trying to tell people what had happened only to find they were under the narcissist’s thrall and didn’t believe me. To go through such extreme torment at the hands of a Jekyll and Hyde and not be validated or supported was the worst. … Read more

Disengage from the narcissist

As an active member of several narcissistic abuse support groups, I often see people post screen shots of their dialogues with their narcissistic abusers. They often argue with their narcissists or defend themselves, or they write heartfelt messages explaining how they feel and how the narcissist is hurting them. DON’T DO THIS!!! It may make … Read more

Relationships with a narcissists are not like normal relationships

You can have a bad relationship with some arguments and incompatibility but it will never compare to having a bad relationship with a narcissist. A narcissist will tear your world apart and bring destruction even when you think the relationship is over. From my book The Faces of Narcissistic Abuse: First-Hand Experiences With Narcissists Click … Read more