Another story I found. I wrote this not long after leaving my first narcissist husband, (before I knew he was a narcissist.) I was writing what had happened to me as part of therapy. On top of that, I was homesick. I don’t have the best family, or even a family that I really like, but … Read more
While going through old files, I found a very long document I’d typed out right after I left my first narcissist husband. I didn’t even know he was a narcissist then. I knew he’d been emotionally and verbally abusive and that the things he said to me made so little sense I thought I was … Read more
Now, I look back and can’t believe I pathetically let him dictate how I should be, I can’t believe I took responsibility for his behavior, I can’t believe I didn’t put my foot down at the first signs of controlling behavior. But it happened. That’s the way abuse works. The abuser’s swinging behavior from … Read more
Unfortunately, his extreme need for praise and validation was never something I could fulfill no matter how hard I tried. he was so great most of the time, that I took full responsibility for the times he wasn’t great. If he was acting strange, it must be my fault since he was such a great … Read more
Don’t spend another minute thinking of your ex-narcissist today. They’ve already wasted too much of your time. There are so many more pleasant things to think about!
I’m finishing up my third eBook which is about recognizing narcissistic men before you get too involved with them. Here’s one of the quotes:
For me, the hardest part of being abused by a narcissist was trying to tell people what had happened only to find they were under the narcissist’s thrall and didn’t believe me. To go through such extreme torment at the hands of a Jekyll and Hyde and not be validated or supported was the worst. … Read more
The narcissist is never going to turn into a prince!
As an active member of several narcissistic abuse support groups, I often see people post screen shots of their dialogues with their narcissistic abusers. They often argue with their narcissists or defend themselves, or they write heartfelt messages explaining how they feel and how the narcissist is hurting them. DON’T DO THIS!!! It may make … Read more
You can have a bad relationship with some arguments and incompatibility but it will never compare to having a bad relationship with a narcissist. A narcissist will tear your world apart and bring destruction even when you think the relationship is over. From my book The Faces of Narcissistic Abuse: First-Hand Experiences With Narcissists Click … Read more