How I learned that the courts can’t be trusted to protect raped women

A few years ago, I briefly dated someone who became extremely abusive within months. From his behavior towards me, stories I heard from others and stories he told me, I quickly realized he was definitely a narcissist and probably a sociopath as well. He was reckless, cruel, lacked empathy, was manipulative and lied a lot. … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Five–Blinded by Sex

Don’t let sex and hormones fool you into falling “in love” with or staying with someone who is abusing you! Narcissists often depend on the power of dramatic sex to keep you hooked. In my last blog, I left off at the end of chapter 8, when Christian has just taken Ana’s virginity with very … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Four–Lack of Consideration

A relationship where the other person is not considerate of you, your needs, your desires and your feelings is not a good relationship worth keeping. You deserve better! In my last post about Fifty Shades of Grey, I wrote about Christian’s controlling behavior over Ana–telling her how to eat and behave. This time, I will … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Three–Control

In my last blog about Fifty Shades of Grey, I noted that Christian picked Ana partly because she had poor boundaries and seemed timid, while her stronger friend, Kate, knew immediately that he was bad news. In this blog, we move farther into the book as Christian begins controlling Ana and dictating how she should … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Two Boundary Violations

In my first blog analyzing Fifty Shades of Grey, I related how Ana and Christian sized each other up and Ana realized she was dealing with a control freak while Christian realized he’d found an easy target. And that was just in the first chapter! The next few chapters show rapid boundary violations as Christian … Read more

Narcissists hurt people…then blame the victims because they did it!

“Narcissists think they are beyond reproach, and they feel entitled to hurt others without consequence. They don’t have empathy for others and they don’t care what they do to others. All narcissists care about is what they want and when they want it! If you are with a man who repeatedly hurts others then blames … Read more

The narcissistic man may have a history of on-again off-again relationships

From my third eBook: A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator Click HERE to see or buy on Amazon. Even if it hasn’t happened with your man, (or it’s just starting to happen,) listen to his stories and notice if he has a history of on-again/off-again relationships. This … Read more

Now Available! A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator

My third eBook, A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator, is now available! “At the beginning, they can lay on the charm a little too strong. If you are a woman who wants some romance, you might be so blinded, you don’t notice. And frankly, if you are … Read more

Narcissists in plain words…

I’m almost finished with my third e-Book about dealing with narcissists. It should be ready in the next week or so. Here’s part of the introduction: “Well just in case, you haven’t met a narcissist, I’ll give you a brief introduction. Narcissists aren’t just jerks or people with whom you don’t get along. They are … Read more