Narcissists often target people who make easy scapegoats

I’ve had a theory for a while, that narcissists will often target people who have some problem that will make them an easy scapegoat. After all, if the victim has an obvious “deficiency,” it will be easier to pin all blame on the victim. Then, the abusive narcissist can pretend to be a victim and … Read more

Yes we should blame abusive parents for some of our problems

So this meme is circulating on Facebook. It brings very divisive reactions. Some people think it’s great, and that all adults should take full responsibility for everything that happens to them. I think that, while the idea is good–that of being accountable for your choices–the meme is completely wrong and ignorant for children of narcissistic … Read more

A good book for understanding narcissists, their tricks, and terms for describing them

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family In the world of narcissist support groups, there are a lot of terms that we get used to using. Phrases like “flying monkeys,” “overt and covert narcissists,” “scapegoat and golden child,” and more. People who are just learning … Read more

Why daughters of narcissists date and marry more narcissists

It is not uncommon for daughters of narcissistic parents to date and marry narcissistic men repeatedly. Unfortunately, people who come from healthy families cannot understand why this would happen to someone. Often times, a woman who has been in an abusive relationship more than once is considered “crazy” or “damaged goods” or people believe she … Read more

Narcissist mothers become enemies who poison people against you

From my e-Book The Faces of Narcissistic Abuse: First-Hand Experiences with Narcissists My mother started leaving me out of family events, and if I did go to one, relatives made hateful comments to me about how mean I was to her. I was always confused. These people didn’t really know me. They knew her stories. … Read more

Sociopaths and narcissists can be mothers, fathers, grandparents, relatives….

Be careful about telling a narcissist’s victim that they have to stay in touch because the narcissist is their mother, father, grandparent, relative, etc… Not every biological parent is capable of being safe or loving. People who are being abused need our support to find safety and peace–not our guilt trips!