The psychopath–a cruel, conniving, manipulative, and morally corrupt person–is very real, and more common than most people realize. The even bigger problem is that they don’t fit our stereotypes for big, obvious, evil. Instead, the very worst of them hide behind a beautiful facade which makes them difficult to recognize and makes it easier for … Read more
Perhaps the most dangerous quality of the covert narcissist is their ability to destroy your reputation and credibilty under the guise of concern without ever sounding mean. Their listeners don’t realize they are being cruel because they never outright insult you. They just say they are concerned about you because you are crazy, unstable, or … Read more
This post is actually about cluster B friendships as much as it is about romantic relationships. It was inspired by some comments I saw on Facebook today. (I swear Facebook is toxic to society, and yet it’s so addictive!) Cluster B personality disordered people are polarizing. Some people love them. Some people hate them. Some … Read more
Everyone who calls me crazy heard it from my narcopath ex. Maybe he’s not the most reliable source. Just sayin’….
Every once in a while, someone tells me about a nasty rumor they heard about me and asks if it is true. These stories are always outrageous and entirely false. Then I wonder how many others heard the same lie and believed it. I guess that explains why so many people I barely know think … Read more
I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more
One of the worst feelings in the world comes when you are telling the truth about abuse and you need support, but others accuse you of lying.
Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more
Narcissists do not take anyone seriously but themselves. They do not care about the needs of others, and they do not respect anything you say. No matter how correct you are, they don’t care one bit about YOUR words, your thoughts, or anything you say you want or need for yourself. They only care about … Read more
Narcissists want to control every little detail of your life. Even if it does them no good, they must be in charge. Even if it makes no sense, they must be in charge. No matter what you do, they want to be the ones pulling your strings. I used to find that my narcopath ex would … Read more