Everyone who calls me crazy heard it from my narcopath ex. Maybe he’s not the most reliable source. Just sayin’….
Every once in a while, someone tells me about a nasty rumor they heard about me and asks if it is true. These stories are always outrageous and entirely false. Then I wonder how many others heard the same lie and believed it. I guess that explains why so many people I barely know think … Read more
I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more
One of the worst feelings in the world comes when you are telling the truth about abuse and you need support, but others accuse you of lying.
Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more
Narcissists do not take anyone seriously but themselves. They do not care about the needs of others, and they do not respect anything you say. No matter how correct you are, they don’t care one bit about YOUR words, your thoughts, or anything you say you want or need for yourself. They only care about … Read more
Narcissists want to control every little detail of your life. Even if it does them no good, they must be in charge. Even if it makes no sense, they must be in charge. No matter what you do, they want to be the ones pulling your strings. I used to find that my narcopath ex would … Read more
I do not believe that mass shootings are a mental health issue. In fact, I think that is a slap in the face to millions of people who would never think to kill anyone! (For the record, I don’t think they can be fixed with gun control either, but that’s not really the point of … Read more
In case you haven’t heard, Harvey Weinstein is a Hollywood producer who has been sexually harassing, molesting and raping rising actresses for years. It was a well-known “secret,” but women are starting to come out publicly now. Lots of women…including some of Hollywood’s most famous actresses. Many of them are admitting that they all knew, … Read more
“Blackballing” is an older term. It originates from the old practice of voting with colored balls to admit someone into a club. If someone wanted to join a social club, the current members would all vote whether to admit them or not by putting a ball in a closed container. The color of the ball … Read more