Narcissists like to hurt people. They want to drag you down, and they will tell you lies about yourself to try to make you feel bad. Like the typical bullies, perhaps they think this will make them a little “better,” but they are wrong. I’ve noticed through the years, that narcissists often like to degrade … Read more
I’ve been listening to the Moody Blues a lot since they were inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. For those who aren’t familiar, they are a band that started in the 60s and became pretty psychedelic. They would often include spoken poetry between the songs. Lately, part of one of the poems, … Read more
The psychopath–a cruel, conniving, manipulative, and morally corrupt person–is very real, and more common than most people realize. The even bigger problem is that they don’t fit our stereotypes for big, obvious, evil. Instead, the very worst of them hide behind a beautiful facade which makes them difficult to recognize and makes it easier for … Read more
Perhaps the most dangerous quality of the covert narcissist is their ability to destroy your reputation and credibilty under the guise of concern without ever sounding mean. Their listeners don’t realize they are being cruel because they never outright insult you. They just say they are concerned about you because you are crazy, unstable, or … Read more
This post is actually about cluster B friendships as much as it is about romantic relationships. It was inspired by some comments I saw on Facebook today. (I swear Facebook is toxic to society, and yet it’s so addictive!) Cluster B personality disordered people are polarizing. Some people love them. Some people hate them. Some … Read more
Everyone who calls me crazy heard it from my narcopath ex. Maybe he’s not the most reliable source. Just sayin’….
Every once in a while, someone tells me about a nasty rumor they heard about me and asks if it is true. These stories are always outrageous and entirely false. Then I wonder how many others heard the same lie and believed it. I guess that explains why so many people I barely know think … Read more
I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more
One of the worst feelings in the world comes when you are telling the truth about abuse and you need support, but others accuse you of lying.
Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more