I don’t regret speaking out about abuse. I am only sad that society isn’t ready to listen. As long as no one hears our reality abuse will continue.
Sometimes we envision a narcissist as a hot girl/handsome guy staring at herself/himself in the mirror. It’s easy to assume they are rich, attractive, glamorous and obvious. But…they aren’t. One of the reasons narcissists are so successful at conning people is they are extremely average and don’t seem offensive at all…at first. Here are ten things … Read more
Dealing With Narcissists 101: The basics I have been there done that with narcissists. Far more than I would like! I’ve made the mistakes, I’ve given too many chances, I’ve foolishly tried to “fix” disordered people….I’ve done it all. It takes time to learn that there really isn’t much hope in dealing with a narcissist. … Read more
Remember, the narcissist sees something of great value you in you or they wouldn’t be trying to hard to get it for themselves and smash it out of you. Quote from my book:
This should be you…running away from the narcissist towards your emergency exit! Narcissists are masters of saying wonderful, beautiful things–exactly what they know you want to hear. They are so mesmerizing, that sometimes it takes a while to realize that their actions don’t actually match their words. You can count on a narcissist to lie. … Read more
We are taught that telling the truth is good and lying is wrong, but with a narcissist, we see that they are always rewarded for lying while we are bullied for telling the truth. Somehow, they turn everything upside down.
For me, the hardest part of being abused by a narcissist was trying to tell people what had happened only to find they were under the narcissist’s thrall and didn’t believe me. To go through such extreme torment at the hands of a Jekyll and Hyde and not be validated or supported was the worst. … Read more
You cannot fix a narcissist. You can only be responsible for yourself. They’ve already shown you what they are and it isn’t going to change. You can’t help the narcissist and you can’t make them become a good person. Trying to fix them will only drive you crazy. All you can do is leave the situation … Read more
Hope is good…unless you are hoping a narcissist will change. That’s one thing that’s never going to happen.
Many people think they are being polite, caring, Christian or kind when they refuse to speak about the narcissist’s abuse. They aren’t. They are enabling a predator and giving him silent approval to continue hurting people.