The narcissist wants to make you feel worthless so you don’t escape

Narcissists have a sneaky way of disabling us. Sometimes, we don’t even realize that we are internalizing the lies they tell us about ourselves, and we come to believe those lies are true. We believe them so much, that we get stuck. When I was a kid, my mother repeatedly told me I was not … Read more

Patience when good doesn’t win right away–Inspired by Star Wars

The other day I wrote about watching Star Wars Episodes I-III for the first time and seeing sociopathy in a main character. I often find examples of narcissism and sociopathy in movies. You know, we often feel very alone after the horrors we’ve dealt with, but there are so many examples in popular culture, that … Read more

Is dealing with a narcissist spiritual warfare?

***Just a big warning: while I usually try not to post too much about religion, this is a religious post and is mostly from my general Christian point of view.*** After dealing with a sociopath for 3.5 years, I think about good and evil, right and wrong, God and Satan, and other ethical issues quite … Read more

How abuse can start so slowly that you might not realize you are being abused

Even the strongest person is susceptible because abuse seeps in so slowly. It goes unnoticed until one day you realize that something is seriously wrong and you are no longer sure what or who is wrong or right. If you find yourself noticing weird things early in your relationship and realizing that your partner’s actions … Read more

The narcissist socializes with no fear while the victim pulls away

Even after I cut contact with my narcopath abuser and blocked him every way I possibly could, he still knew every move I made. His enablers were very dedicated to stalking me, and every time I thought I knew who was reporting back, I would block them. Still, he knew everything I did. I came … Read more

Are people who support the narcissist just as guilty?

When I find out someone is friendly with my narcopath ex, I automatically distrust them. I often block them and avoid them. The ex was violently abusive with me, my children and my pets, as well as dozens–if not hundreds–of other women over the years. Not to mention restaurant servers, co-workers, random people on the … Read more

Blocking and de-friending narcissists on Facebook

Like many people, I have a personal Facebook account, and like many people who have dealt with narcopaths, I have a pretty long list of people I’ve blocked. Many of them are flying monkeys, some of them are enablers, some of them are plain old bullies and some of them are people who show what I now know … Read more