Recovery from narcissists
Accepting that abuse isn’t fair so you don’t get hung up on it
Recovering from serious abuse, (especially the emotional abuse that comes from narcissists,) can be a long journey. You might feel better off and on, make some really great progress then get stuck for a while, back slide a few times, and more. But, it is possible to keep getting ahead. For me, the thing that … Read more
Don’t Be Afraid to Hit Rock Bottom
As so many of us have learned, recovering from narcissistic abuse is not easy. It’s not a perfect path, either. There are ups and downs. There are breakthroughs and setbacks. It takes years. Sometimes you can feel great for a while, then BOOM! the narcissist notices and makes sure to restart the harassment and smear … Read more
After narcissistic abuse, you can really appreciate the good
Like many people, I was very hesitant to date after divorcing a narcopath. I’d already divorced two abusers. After the first covert narcissist, I thought I’d learned my lesson…then I ended up with a very smooth talking, charming sociopath. That will scare a person out of dating FOREVER! But still, we are humans, and we … Read more
There may be two or more sides to a story, but not every side is true
As I’ve tried to tell my story to get legal help dealing with the narcopath abuser, I’ve heard many platitudes that may apply to a normal break-up, but do not apply to a break-up with a predator. I’ve heard comments like “there are two sides to every story with the truth somewhere in between,” or … Read more
No. I didn’t “choose” to marry a narcissist
People who have been abused by narcissists hear all kinds of ridiculous and cruel comments from people who have no clue. I’ve been told that it’s my fault I was abused because I married the narcopath, that it’s worse for me to talk about the abuse than it was for him to abuse me, that … Read more
If my ex is so great…
To those who attack me on behalf of my abuser: I say he abused me. He degraded me. He attacked and controlled me. He intimidated me. He insulted me. He hurt me badly. He almost killed me. I say he is a sociopath. He says I’m crazy. You say I’m a liar and a slanderer. … Read more
The narcissist wants to make you feel worthless so you don’t escape
Narcissists have a sneaky way of disabling us. Sometimes, we don’t even realize that we are internalizing the lies they tell us about ourselves, and we come to believe those lies are true. We believe them so much, that we get stuck. When I was a kid, my mother repeatedly told me I was not … Read more
Patience when good doesn’t win right away–Inspired by Star Wars
The other day I wrote about watching Star Wars Episodes I-III for the first time and seeing sociopathy in a main character. I often find examples of narcissism and sociopathy in movies. You know, we often feel very alone after the horrors we’ve dealt with, but there are so many examples in popular culture, that … Read more
Is dealing with a narcissist spiritual warfare?
***Just a big warning: while I usually try not to post too much about religion, this is a religious post and is mostly from my general Christian point of view.*** After dealing with a sociopath for 3.5 years, I think about good and evil, right and wrong, God and Satan, and other ethical issues quite … Read more