Gaslighting and manipulation at visitation time

I had to deal with the sociopath today because he visited my son this weekend. I hate those weekends! Sociopath has been testing boundaries lately by calling my phone to inform me of his visitation plans. Our court approved mediation states that he must email me by Wednesday and is not allowed to call me…so … Read more

Shame on Child Support Enforcement Agencies who do not hold deadbeats accountable!

Today, I am outright pissed off and disgusted by our local Child Support Enforcement Agency. They fail my child very badly. It’s outrageous how much they let the narcopath get away with. I know most of us with abusive, narcissistic, sociopathic exes are dealing with deadbeats. It’s in their nature. They don’t meet their responsibilities … Read more

Don’t let your guard down with a narcissist or sociopath!

Sometimes, disordered people can act normal, or even nice! Of course we already know this, because the narcissist was probably pretty good when we first met them, or else we wouldn’t have fallen for them, right? Even when they start showing us their true colors, we often cling to the good parts and assume the … Read more

Sociopaths often have years worth of “little” crimes but the courts never add them together to see the big picture

***This post is in reference to the male who shot at multiple politicians yesterday; however I am not going to discuss his politics. I’m going to review his history and how he is the typical sociopath. I ask everyone to please refrain from political comments. Many of us have strong political views…and many of us … Read more

Profile of a pro-social sociopath–how they get away with public bullying

My sociopath ex’s main flying monkey is so severe and manipulative, that I’m convinced she is a sociopath too. I’m not the only one she bullies, although I seem to be her main target. (It is not unlike a sociopath to pick a main target to stalk and harass.) She bullies many others, yet she … Read more

The sociopath’s supporters only see what the sociopath lets them see

One of my sociopath ex’s flying monkeys has been so vicious and determined to destroy me, that I can only accept that she is a sociopath herself. Many people love her…but many people don’t. Just as with all personality-disordered bullies who can use masks, people’s opinions of her are sharply divided depending on whether or … Read more

Trump as a narcissist–and how it hurts the abuse community

These days, it is popular to cast Donald Trump as a narcissist. After all, he’s loud, brazen, tactless, crude, and more. He’s a big mouth, and he’s very obviously un-likable for many people. I’ve seen people in the narcissistic abuse support community say that it is helpful for the world to see Trump and learn … Read more

The narcissist does not want you to escape or be happy

Narcissists love to make us miserable. They enjoy the control they have over our emotions when they bully us, then sometimes play nice, then bully us…. They are in complete control, and we become dependent and desperate for them to just behave themselves. Or…we quit playing their games and leave. Since we can’t change them, … Read more

Don’t Be Afraid to Hit Rock Bottom

As so many of us have learned, recovering from narcissistic abuse is not easy. It’s not a perfect path, either. There are ups and downs. There are breakthroughs and setbacks. It takes years. Sometimes you can feel great for a while, then BOOM! the narcissist notices and makes sure to restart the harassment and smear … Read more