Timeline of a relationship with a narcopath

I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more

One of the ways we are more vulnerable directly after sociopathic abuse

Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more

Narcissists will control you by abusing and misusing your time

 Narcissists want to control every little detail of your life. Even if it does them no good, they must be in charge. Even if it makes no sense, they must be in charge. No matter what you do, they want to be the ones pulling your strings. I used to find that my narcopath ex would … Read more

What would you say to Harvey Weinstein?

In case you haven’t heard, Harvey Weinstein is a Hollywood producer who has been sexually harassing, molesting and raping rising actresses for years. It was a well-known “secret,” but women are starting to come out publicly now. Lots of women…including some of Hollywood’s most famous actresses. Many of them are admitting that they all knew, … Read more

Yes, the sociopath’s enablers DO know what he/she is–Harvey Weinstein

So Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein is in the news lately. There are dozens of credible stories and witnesses of him harassing, molesting, blackmailing and sexually abusing various actresses. At least one actress–Rose McGowan–received a cash settlement after Weinstein raped her. In fact, she used her voice and used Twitter to tell others what happened to … Read more

Gaslighting and manipulation at visitation time

I had to deal with the sociopath today because he visited my son this weekend. I hate those weekends! Sociopath has been testing boundaries lately by calling my phone to inform me of his visitation plans. Our court approved mediation states that he must email me by Wednesday and is not allowed to call me…so … Read more

Shame on Child Support Enforcement Agencies who do not hold deadbeats accountable!

Today, I am outright pissed off and disgusted by our local Child Support Enforcement Agency. They fail my child very badly. It’s outrageous how much they let the narcopath get away with. I know most of us with abusive, narcissistic, sociopathic exes are dealing with deadbeats. It’s in their nature. They don’t meet their responsibilities … Read more

Don’t let your guard down with a narcissist or sociopath!

Sometimes, disordered people can act normal, or even nice! Of course we already know this, because the narcissist was probably pretty good when we first met them, or else we wouldn’t have fallen for them, right? Even when they start showing us their true colors, we often cling to the good parts and assume the … Read more