What the court system has taught me about domestic violence

I haven’t been posting much lately because I have been in a great place in life. However, this post is going to be filled with frustrations. It’s not a happy post, but it is reality. There are a lot of us out there who are living with genuine terror, PTSD, anxiety, depression and more after … Read more

When it comes to abuse, society won’t help. You are on your own

There are some really, hideously ugly truths out there. They aren’t fair, they aren’t right and they aren’t nice…but they are true, and we have no choice but to accept that no matter how much it sickens us. The worst thing I have learned while trying to recover from terrifying abuse is that, while society … Read more

There may be two or more sides to a story, but not every side is true

As I’ve tried to tell my story to get legal help dealing with the narcopath abuser, I’ve heard many platitudes that may apply to a normal break-up, but do not apply to a break-up with a predator. I’ve heard comments like “there are two sides to every story with the truth somewhere in between,” or … Read more

Spiritual warfare as an explanation for narcissistic patterns and families

Narcissistic abusers are common in society even though not everyone uses the term “narcissist.” Many classic movies feature a war of good against evil with an antagonist who shows clear narcissistic or sociopathic traits. For example, Gollum in Lord of the Rings, or Palpatine in Star Wars. These characters are manipulative, sneaky, two-faced, and evil. … Read more

Patience when good doesn’t win right away–Inspired by Star Wars

The other day I wrote about watching Star Wars Episodes I-III for the first time and seeing sociopathy in a main character. I often find examples of narcissism and sociopathy in movies. You know, we often feel very alone after the horrors we’ve dealt with, but there are so many examples in popular culture, that … Read more

Sociopathy in Palpatine in the Star Wars prequels

I’ve written before about narcissism in movies, (Lord of the Rings.) So many of our popular books and movies feature bad guys who reveal narcissistic or sociopathic tendencies. Of course, the antagonist is not always labeled a narcissist, but they are usually¬†cruel, manipulative, two-faced and infuriating! Many times, the bad guys in movies and books … Read more

Is dealing with a narcissist spiritual warfare?

***Just a big warning: while I usually try not to post too much about religion, this is a religious post and is mostly from my general Christian point of view.*** After dealing with a sociopath for 3.5 years, I think about good and evil, right and wrong, God and Satan, and other ethical issues quite … Read more

The flip side to the smear campaign–the narcissist’s public image campaign

Many of us have endured the narcissist¬†smear campaign. The abuser goes around projecting his or her own behavior on to us, playing victim, and trashing us to anyone who will listen in an effort to distract others from hearing the truth that we KNOW about the narc. And it works pretty well. Most people just … Read more