He told me many stories, and I began to realize he was the aggressor in every one, yet he blamed the other person and in fact, became angry when he felt the consequences of his behavior. I knew something was wrong here, but didn’t know how to put it into words.
I cannot even begin to explain to you how a sociopath brainwashed me, but he’s done it to many. Why would I stay with someone who treated me in a way I knew was horrible? It was like he mesmerized me by saying the perfect words, mirroring my personality and fitting all my needs. I … Read more
I have been organizing everything that happened when I was with my former narcissist sociopath ex. I’m going through all the HELP! messages I sent people and piecing them together to make a timeline and a story of what it was like to be in that hurricane of narcopath terror. In one section, I wrote … Read more
I have previously blogged about something I noticed–that a club enabled and protected my ex narcopath. I saw it for myself and noticed the phenomenon, but I recently found an article from a professional that better explains what I was seeing. This article is titled and focused on predators in religious organizations, but it begins with … Read more
My ex narcopath can be very charming, but also has a reputation for being a big jerk with many people. In fact, a lot of the people who attack and bully me for speaking out about how bad the abuse was will admit that they know he’s an abuser! But, they still support him and … Read more
The most dangerous predators don’t look dangerous at all on the surface. Because of this, society protects them while degrading their victims. The predators are assumed not guilty and the victims are “crazy slanderers.” How many of us have lived this? I know I have!
I took a break from analyzing Fifty Shades of Grey but now I’ll continue on. Here are the previous entries: The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part One, Part Two Boundary Violations, Part Three–Control, Part Four–Lack of Consideration, and Part Five–Blinded by Sex All quotes are from James, E L (2011-05-25). Fifty Shades of Grey (Fifty … Read more
Sometimes that crazy woman who looks like she’s trashing a nice guy is really the victim telling you the truth about an abuser.
Do you think the narcissist isn’t using you? Think again! If you have a narcissist ex, you know that they are extremely charming and trick you into believing everything they say. Even if other people warn you, the narcissist has such great stories to rationalize the cruel things they have done to others. Until it … Read more
Know the signs of a predator! I know we aren’t all psychologists or therapists, and we don’t all have the credentials to diagnose someone, but you CAN trust your instincts. A narcissist or a sociopath is so much different from a “normal” person, that it’s easy to tell something is wrong after you spend enough … Read more