I kept apologizing to the narcissist even when I didn’t do anything wrong

I have been organizing everything that happened when I was with my former narcissist sociopath ex. I’m going through all the HELP! messages I sent people and piecing them together to make a timeline and a story of what it was like to be in that hurricane of narcopath terror. In one section, I wrote … Read more

Why narcissists and predators love organizations and clubs

I have previously blogged about something I noticed–that a club enabled and protected my ex narcopath. I saw it for myself and noticed the phenomenon, but I recently found an article from a professional that better explains what I was seeing. This article is titled and focused on predators in religious organizations, but it begins with … Read more

Too many people would rather have an abuse victim shut up than see the abuser held accountable

My ex narcopath can be very charming, but also has a reputation for being a big jerk with many people. In fact, a lot of the people who attack and bully me for speaking out about how bad the abuse was will admit that they know he’s an abuser! But, they still support him and … Read more

The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part Six–Distracted by Flattery

I took a break from analyzing Fifty Shades of Grey but now I’ll continue on. Here are the previous entries: The not so sexy side of Fifty Shades of Grey–Part One, Part Two Boundary Violations, Part Three–Control, Part Four–Lack of Consideration, and Part Five–Blinded by Sex All quotes are from James, E L (2011-05-25). Fifty Shades of Grey (Fifty … Read more

To the flying monkeys who have never met me, but attack me for the narcissist

Do you think the narcissist isn’t using you? Think again! If you have a narcissist ex, you know that they are extremely charming and trick you into believing everything they say. Even if other people warn you, the narcissist has such great stories to rationalize the cruel things they have done to others. Until it … Read more

You don’t have to be a professional to know something is wrong!

Know the signs of a predator! I know we aren’t all psychologists or therapists, and we don’t all have the credentials to diagnose someone, but you CAN trust your instincts. A narcissist or a sociopath is so much different from a “normal” person, that it’s easy to tell something is wrong after you spend enough … Read more