When Fifty Shades of Grey first started becoming trendy, I rolled my eyes and ignored it. I knew the reviews spoke of poor writing and low quality. I’m a literature fan and don’t typically read romance novels, so I figured this was more junk on the cheap book rack at the grocery store. But as … Read more
Narcissists are manipulative people. They manage to get innocent people to do their bidding, believe their lies and fall under their spell. I’ve seen it happen even to perfectly nice and normal people. Some of the people who attack me on behalf of my narcissist former abuser are otherwise decent people who honestly think they … Read more
A study came out recently that indicated online trolls are often personality-disordered people who are just as nasty inside as they are online. I encountered one the other day that I fully believe was a sociopath. Why? A complete inability to self-reflect as well as his reaction when called on his behavior. All humans make … Read more
We’ve heard about parental alienation, but there’s less commentary on family alienation. It seems to be the hallmark of a narcissistic mother–especially with her daughter. Narcissists of all types are dedicated to discrediting their victims by portraying them as crazy to friends, relatives and acquaintances. They usually start before the victim even knows there is … Read more
Sometimes the people who consider themselves to be good and kind are the most likely to be fooled by a narcissist and the most likely to be angry at the victim for speaking out. In their minds, the victim is the bully for saying “bad” things about the narcissist. Good people want to support justice, … Read more
Be the one who stands against abuse. When others are afraid to upset the abuser, don’t believe how bad it is, support the abuser, don’t want to be bullied for speaking out, don’t want to rock the boat…. Be the one.
I got to thinking about something I observed the other day. I’ve noticed that many, if not most, narcissists are protected by their social groups or families. A lot of groups or dysfunctional families look out for their own and hide their secrets. While group solidarity can be a good thing, it can also be toxic … Read more
Don’t waste your time trying to reason with a narcissist. You are more likely to talk sense into this wall!
It’s frustrating to me that so many people can witness aggressive or abusive behavior and know something is “not right” with a person, yet refuse to speak up to protect the victims. Or worse, go out of their way to shield the abusive person from the consequences.
I am part of a nationwide club that has an online community of members. I have befriended many of them on Facebook and have gotten to know many of them in person over the years. One man I “met” online was well-liked and known for loving his family. When I was out of food and … Read more