Don’t waste your time trying to reason with a narcissist. You are more likely to talk sense into this wall!
It’s frustrating to me that so many people can witness aggressive or abusive behavior and know something is “not right” with a person, yet refuse to speak up to protect the victims. Or worse, go out of their way to shield the abusive person from the consequences.
I am part of a nationwide club that has an online community of members. I have befriended many of them on Facebook and have gotten to know many of them in person over the years. One man I “met” online was well-liked and known for loving his family. When I was out of food and … Read more
Today I was thinking of something my narcissist mother did for the sole purpose of upsetting me. A couple years ago, in the middle of winter, I was pregnant and stressed…and my toilet clogged up and backed up in my bathroom. I only have one bathroom. I called a plumber and arranged an appointment, but … Read more
Many of us who grew up in abusive families never learned to set boundaries. Or if we tried, they were repeatedly violated until we felt helpless–like we couldn’t live our own lives. When I was a child, I started to have normal boundaries and I stated what I did and didn’t like, but my narcissistic … Read more
I wrote this post on my other blog, but it fits here too, so I’ll add a link: Why it can be helpful to “turn the other cheek” at certain times
My other blog includes many book reviews…and I read a lot of books about narcissistic abuse, crazy people and recovery. Many of these might be helpful for you too: People Can’t Drive You Crazy if You Don’t Give Them the Keys by Mike Bechtle Life Code: The New Rules For Winning in the Real World … Read more
I call this my “dark” blog but I also have a lighter blog! This one focuses on narcissism and narcissistic abuse education and stories, as well as my eBooks about what I’ve learned. But, you don’t want to get stuck in this part of recovery forever. I hurt for a very long time after being … Read more
It used to drive me nutso when my narcissist mother showed zero respect for my belongings. She’s sold my bed for gambling money, given away my infant’s baby bed, stolen my credit card, broken my valuables, drained my childhood savings account, and worse. Every time, I am left helpless. I can threaten to call the … Read more
Narcissists gaslight you and protect each other. Last night, for whatever reason, I remembered an incident that happened with my narcissist mother and her narcissist sister who is even worse. I have always been a pale person and I have a yellowish olive tinge to my skin tone–just like my dad. I don’t tan much, … Read more