While going through old files, I found a very long document I’d typed out right after I left my first narcissist husband. I didn’t even know he was a narcissist then. I knew he’d been emotionally and verbally abusive and that the things he said to me made so little sense I thought I was … Read more
Living with abuse can make a woman feel like she is going crazy. My experiences with normal relationships and normal people had not prepared me for the hurricane that was going to come rushing through my head destroying everything I expected and believed in.
Now, I look back and can’t believe I pathetically let him dictate how I should be, I can’t believe I took responsibility for his behavior, I can’t believe I didn’t put my foot down at the first signs of controlling behavior. But it happened. That’s the way abuse works. The abuser’s swinging behavior from … Read more
Unfortunately, his extreme need for praise and validation was never something I could fulfill no matter how hard I tried. he was so great most of the time, that I took full responsibility for the times he wasn’t great. If he was acting strange, it must be my fault since he was such a great … Read more
Don’t spend another minute thinking of your ex-narcissist today. They’ve already wasted too much of your time. There are so many more pleasant things to think about!
Let me explain in advance…I’m not a cusser and I’m not a crude person, but what a narcissist does to people is crude, so I’m going to describe what I call the “Fuck and Dump.” Also, I am a straight woman who dates men, so I have no idea what it’s like to date a … Read more
So Bill Cosby, (whose opinions I have always admired,) has been accused of multiple cases of rape. Despite his nice guy reputation, I completely believe this is true. I know a little…no make that a LOT…about how people can play two roles in life. On news sites, people are calling his accusers whores, liars, skanks, … Read more
I don’t regret speaking out about abuse. I am only sad that society isn’t ready to listen. As long as no one hears our reality abuse will continue.
Sometimes we envision a narcissist as a hot girl/handsome guy staring at herself/himself in the mirror. It’s easy to assume they are rich, attractive, glamorous and obvious. But…they aren’t. One of the reasons narcissists are so successful at conning people is they are extremely average and don’t seem offensive at all…at first. Here are ten things … Read more
Dealing With Narcissists 101: The basics I have been there done that with narcissists. Far more than I would like! I’ve made the mistakes, I’ve given too many chances, I’ve foolishly tried to “fix” disordered people….I’ve done it all. It takes time to learn that there really isn’t much hope in dealing with a narcissist. … Read more