Many people hope a psychological evaluation will help them convince the courts of what the victim already knows–that the abuser is a narcissist or sociopath. The truth is, the same predator that fooled you can fool even the most experienced psychologist when they put on the full show. I thought for sure the narcopath was … Read more
Like many people who have children with a narcissist, I have the misfortune of sometimes having to communicate with the narcissist. I gray rock as much as I can. I don’t take the bait when he falsely accuses me, I don’t defend myself and get pulled into his web of lies, I don’t engage in … Read more
This post is actually about cluster B friendships as much as it is about romantic relationships. It was inspired by some comments I saw on Facebook today. (I swear Facebook is toxic to society, and yet it’s so addictive!) Cluster B personality disordered people are polarizing. Some people love them. Some people hate them. Some … Read more
This post isn’t directly about narcissism, but it is about the consequences so many of us face when we leave the narcissist. Narcissists practice financial abuse and blackmailing. If the narcissist knows you want to leave, they will threaten to drain your finances, (or they will actually do it,) they will threaten you and say … Read more
Everyone who calls me crazy heard it from my narcopath ex. Maybe he’s not the most reliable source. Just sayin’….
Every once in a while, someone tells me about a nasty rumor they heard about me and asks if it is true. These stories are always outrageous and entirely false. Then I wonder how many others heard the same lie and believed it. I guess that explains why so many people I barely know think … Read more
I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more
One of the worst feelings in the world comes when you are telling the truth about abuse and you need support, but others accuse you of lying.
This is a post that I really don’t want to write, but I also really think it must be written. I don’t want to write it because I’m a lifelong music fan. Like so many people, I love the Beatles. I listen to them frequently and play their songs for my kids. I want to … Read more
Today a lady who is old enough to be my mother told me she enjoyed seeing me and I was a delight to be around. Instead of feeling pleased, I felt uncomfortable and weird. Why? That is a great compliment, so I should feel happy that I make others happy. But I just felt awkward … Read more