This post isn’t directly about narcissism, but it is about the consequences so many of us face when we leave the narcissist. Narcissists practice financial abuse and blackmailing. If the narcissist knows you want to leave, they will threaten to drain your finances, (or they will actually do it,) they will threaten you and say … Read more
Everyone who calls me crazy heard it from my narcopath ex. Maybe he’s not the most reliable source. Just sayin’….
Every once in a while, someone tells me about a nasty rumor they heard about me and asks if it is true. These stories are always outrageous and entirely false. Then I wonder how many others heard the same lie and believed it. I guess that explains why so many people I barely know think … Read more
I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more
One of the worst feelings in the world comes when you are telling the truth about abuse and you need support, but others accuse you of lying.
This is a post that I really don’t want to write, but I also really think it must be written. I don’t want to write it because I’m a lifelong music fan. Like so many people, I love the Beatles. I listen to them frequently and play their songs for my kids. I want to … Read more
Today a lady who is old enough to be my mother told me she enjoyed seeing me and I was a delight to be around. Instead of feeling pleased, I felt uncomfortable and weird. Why? That is a great compliment, so I should feel happy that I make others happy. But I just felt awkward … Read more
Maybe I’m a bit of a killjoy, but whenever I see one of those sappy posts on Facebook about how fantastic all mothers are, I chime in and point out they aren’t. Why? To validate the millions of us who had genuinely horrible mothers! There is this myth that ALL mothers are angelic and want … Read more
Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more
Narcissists do not take anyone seriously but themselves. They do not care about the needs of others, and they do not respect anything you say. No matter how correct you are, they don’t care one bit about YOUR words, your thoughts, or anything you say you want or need for yourself. They only care about … Read more