To tell or not to tell after narcissistic abuse

There are many different views on whether or not an abuse victim should talk about what happened. I personally think we should talk, and in an ideal world, the abuser would be held accountable. However, speaking out definitely has consequences as I have learned the hard way. All morning I’ve been thinking about the reasons … Read more

Flying monkeys never pay attention to the fact that the narcissist’s stories don’t line up

The ability of the narcissist to lie and lie and lie some more-telling conflicting stories that never match up-yet still convince the flying monkeys to believe the lies still surprises me. It’s like they completely take over their enablers’ minds, and sometimes I even wonder if they don’t have some kind of supernatural or magical help … Read more

How a narcissistic parent treats the golden child vs the scapegoat

Aren’t I lucky? Neither of my parents was healthy and both were narcissistic in some ways. Yay me. While I was my mother’s only child, my dad re-married and had a second daughter. When he started his new family, I was discarded and kicked out of my paternal family as if I’d never been born. … Read more

Apathetic people are the narcissist’s best friends

I’ve said many times that I think we should shun repeat abusers-especially narcissists. Even if someone doesn’t hurt me, if I know they hurt others, I don’t want to encourage them. I want to avoid them! Furthermore, when onlookers stay silent about abuse, the narcissist believes that means they condone or even support his or … Read more