Helpful links
People who have been abused once are exponentially more likely to be abused again
It is a sad reality that once a person has been abused or assaulted they are MORE likely to be abused or assaulted again. Revictimization rates are very high. People who have been abused repeat patterns. They also develop vulnerable body language or naive coping patterns that make them more susceptible to further abuse. And … Read more
Helpful link for those who repeatedly date narcissists
I am one of those people who grew up with a narcissist parent and has dated/married more than one narcissist. I finally caught on a few years ago and started setting, (or at least trying to set,) very strict boundaries in my life. When I tell normal people that I had a narc mom and … Read more
For those who are struggling financially after leaving the narc…
I know for those of us who have children with a narcissist, receiving child support is often a rare event. It’s just another symptom of narcissism. They don’t feel like they should meet their obligations, plus they want to control us by keeping us financially dependent on their whims. Too many of us have been … Read more
Why narcissists and predators love organizations and clubs
I have previously blogged about something I noticed–that a club enabled and protected my ex narcopath. I saw it for myself and noticed the phenomenon, but I recently found an article from a professional that better explains what I was seeing. This article is titled and focused on predators in religious organizations, but it begins with … Read more
Helpful link about predators grooming victims
This link is really focused on protecting children from predators who would groom them for abuse, but it is very similar to the way a narcissist grooms a victim. I found that I recognized situations where my ex narcopath did most of these things to me during the two years he groomed me before he … Read more
Helpful link about the narcissist’s devalue phase
Narcissists have a standard relationship cycle. They love bomb you and treat you like the greatest person ever, which draws you in. Then they begin to lose their charm and they devalue you. This is when the abuse begins. Finally, they discard you as yesterday’s news. This article gives you some of the warning signs that … Read more