Timeline of a relationship with a narcopath

I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more

I cut contact with my mother and it was not because she wasn’t perfect

Maybe I’m a bit of a killjoy, but whenever I see one of those sappy posts on Facebook about how fantastic all mothers are, I chime in and point out they aren’t. Why? To validate the millions of us who had genuinely horrible mothers! There is this myth that ALL mothers are angelic and want … Read more

One of the ways we are more vulnerable directly after sociopathic abuse

Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more

Narcissists are dangerous and deadly to your family’s health

Narcissists do not take anyone seriously but themselves. They do not care about the needs of others, and they do not respect anything you say. No matter how correct you are, they don’t care one bit about YOUR words, your thoughts, or anything you say you want or need for yourself. They only care about … Read more

Narcissists will control you by abusing and misusing your time

 Narcissists want to control every little detail of your life. Even if it does them no good, they must be in charge. Even if it makes no sense, they must be in charge. No matter what you do, they want to be the ones pulling your strings. I used to find that my narcopath ex would … Read more

What would you say to Harvey Weinstein?

In case you haven’t heard, Harvey Weinstein is a Hollywood producer who has been sexually harassing, molesting and raping rising actresses for years. It was a well-known “secret,” but women are starting to come out publicly now. Lots of women…including some of Hollywood’s most famous actresses. Many of them are admitting that they all knew, … Read more

Narcissists target and blackball people to prevent them from succeeding

“Blackballing” is an older term. It originates from the old practice of voting with colored balls to admit someone into a club. If someone wanted to join a social club, the current members would all vote whether to admit them or not by putting a ball in a closed container. The color of the ball … Read more

Are you dating a narcissist? Five warning signs

A few years ago, I wrote a book called “A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator.” Here are five of the characteristics you might see if you are dating a narcissistic man with their condensed explanations. To read more, please find the book on Amazon: Number one:  The man who … Read more

I’m being stalked by a crazy woman…and it’s my mother!

Wow, that sounds like an article in a cheap tabloid magazine! But it’s true. And I’m uncomfortable, because I’ve received several reminders lately. My mom is a narcissist, a pathological liar and a manipulator. She twists and turns stories to be a victim and plays sweet little old lady. I’m always the troubled “teenager” even … Read more