Some things church leaders should understand about abuse

I attend a church that emphasizes the importance of family–more so than any other church I’ve ever attended. This means that, not only do I hear the regular speeches about forgiving my abusive mother, but I hear it even more, and from a religious point of view. “Families are forever.” Most of these people mean … Read more

Narcissists love to re-write history

Narcissists rarely tell the truth, but they are really good at lying and changing history so that their lies sound like truth. They use bits of reality, they transpose people and facts, and they come out with a story that sounds incredibly believable to anyone who hears it. When you get frustrated and try to … Read more

Narcissist mothers will make your wedding hell

Narcissist mothers are emotional terrorists, but they seem especially obsessed with destroying their daughters and daughters-in-law. Your mother is supposed to be someone you can trust, but narcissist mothers start female rivalries that are worse than anything you will ever experience from the mean girls at school. They will become your biggest bullies. They do … Read more

Ten ways a narcissist will control you through your children

If you have a child with a narcissist or sociopath, there are so many horrible things that can go wrong. Unfortunately, having a child makes it harder to escape the narcissist’s games. ¬†You can only protect your boundaries as much as possible and engage as little as possible, but I will be honest, even if … Read more

Trump as a narcissist–and how it hurts the abuse community

These days, it is popular to cast Donald Trump as a narcissist. After all, he’s loud, brazen, tactless, crude, and more. He’s a big mouth, and he’s very obviously un-likable for many people. I’ve seen people in the narcissistic abuse support community say that it is helpful for the world to see Trump and learn … Read more