Narcissists target and blackball people to prevent them from succeeding

“Blackballing” is an older term. It originates from the old practice of voting with colored balls to admit someone into a club. If someone wanted to join a social club, the current members would all vote whether to admit them or not by putting a ball in a closed container. The color of the ball … Read more

Are you dating a narcissist? Five warning signs

A few years ago, I wrote a book called “A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator.” Here are five of the characteristics you might see if you are dating a narcissistic man with their condensed explanations. To read more, please find the book on Amazon: Number one:  The man who … Read more

I’m being stalked by a crazy woman…and it’s my mother!

Wow, that sounds like an article in a cheap tabloid magazine! But it’s true. And I’m uncomfortable, because I’ve received several reminders lately. My mom is a narcissist, a pathological liar and a manipulator. She twists and turns stories to be a victim and plays sweet little old lady. I’m always the troubled “teenager” even … Read more

Yes, the sociopath’s enablers DO know what he/she is–Harvey Weinstein

So Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein is in the news lately. There are dozens of credible stories and witnesses of him harassing, molesting, blackmailing and sexually abusing various actresses. At least one actress–Rose McGowan–received a cash settlement after Weinstein raped her. In fact, she used her voice and used Twitter to tell others what happened to … Read more

Not every person you dislike is a narcissist

I’ve said before that we both over estimate and under estimate narcissism. Yes, it is good when we define and recognize narcissistic personality disorder. Not enough people are educated about it, and not enough people see narcissists for what they are. We need more ability to recognize these disordered predators. On the other hand, many … Read more

People who abandoned their older children for new marriages–Truly evil stepmothers!

This is a topic that pisses. me. off. Second, (or third or fourth…) spouses that encourage a person to abandon their children in favor of the new spouse and the new children. Frankly, anyone who does this is an asshole of the first degree. (That might just be the only time I’ve ever used a … Read more

Gaslighting and manipulation at visitation time

I had to deal with the sociopath today because he visited my son this weekend. I hate those weekends! Sociopath has been testing boundaries lately by calling my phone to inform me of his visitation plans. Our court approved mediation states that he must email me by Wednesday and is not allowed to call me…so … Read more

Shame on Child Support Enforcement Agencies who do not hold deadbeats accountable!

Today, I am outright pissed off and disgusted by our local Child Support Enforcement Agency. They fail my child very badly. It’s outrageous how much they let the narcopath get away with. I know most of us with abusive, narcissistic, sociopathic exes are dealing with deadbeats. It’s in their nature. They don’t meet their responsibilities … Read more

Don’t let your guard down with a narcissist or sociopath!

Sometimes, disordered people can act normal, or even nice! Of course we already know this, because the narcissist was probably pretty good when we first met them, or else we wouldn’t have fallen for them, right? Even when they start showing us their true colors, we often cling to the good parts and assume the … Read more