I cut contact with my mother and it was not because she wasn’t perfect

Maybe I’m a bit of a killjoy, but whenever I see one of those sappy posts on Facebook about how fantastic all mothers are, I chime in and point out they aren’t. Why? To validate the millions of us who had genuinely horrible mothers! There is this myth that ALL mothers are angelic and want … Read more

One of the ways we are more vulnerable directly after sociopathic abuse

Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more

Trying not to dwell on painful memories of abuse–religion included

Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence, Deluxe Edition A few months ago, I purchased a Christian devotional book that has been a wonderful source of wisdom and help for me. It isn’t specifically about dealing with narcissists. In fact, it’s not about dealing with abuse, bad memories, or painful events in particular. The part … Read more

Don’t Be Afraid to Hit Rock Bottom

As so many of us have learned, recovering from narcissistic abuse is not easy. It’s not a perfect path, either. There are ups and downs. There are breakthroughs and setbacks. It takes years. Sometimes you can feel great for a while, then BOOM! the narcissist notices and makes sure to restart the harassment and smear … Read more