Author Joanna Moore–Narcissistic Abuse Survivor
I know not every target of a sociopath is a shy person, but I definitely am. I have always been painfully shy, extremely introverted, very quiet, docile and conscientious. I’ve also always been very considerate of others to the point that I put them ahead of myself. No wonder the sociopath honed in on me! … Read more
Narcissists like to hurt people. They want to drag you down, and they will tell you lies about yourself to try to make you feel bad. Like the typical bullies, perhaps they think this will make them a little “better,” but they are wrong. I’ve noticed through the years, that narcissists often like to degrade … Read more
I often wonder why the narcopath picked ME to marry when he was a lifelong bachelor at nearly 60 year old. (Although I have some bits of evidence that he was married to others….) As far as I know for sure, he had never been married. He had been with hundreds and hundreds of women, … Read more
If you have spent much time in support groups for abuse survivors, you probably already know this: good parents often lose custody of their children to their abusers. It is sickening, but it is true. The custody battle I endured was a nightmare come true, and the stress of it all probably took years off … Read more
When my narcopath ex was smearing me, he made a big deal of telling our mutual acquaintances that I refused to let him see his son. People hated me. They thought I was this evil ex wife who was bullying an innocent father by not letting him see his beloved child. The divorced men hated … Read more
I was thinking today that I might plot out a timeline of how a relationship goes with a Cluster B abuser. I am leaving out tons of details of abuse just to give a timeline of how fast the stages went. Things might go in a slightly different order, or at a different speed for … Read more
Directly after I left the narcissist, I realized that I couldn’t trust any of our mutual friends. Immediately, my world got smaller. From the very start, I didn’t have many people I trusted. I’d already come from a narcissistic family, which was why I’d been so vulnerable to another abuser. I already had very few to … Read more
Narcissists want to control every little detail of your life. Even if it does them no good, they must be in charge. Even if it makes no sense, they must be in charge. No matter what you do, they want to be the ones pulling your strings. I used to find that my narcopath ex would … Read more
My narcopath ex has a sugar mama. Yes. For real! He used to brag about her to me when we were married, and he told me that there was a rich old woman who loved him and would marry him and support him any time he said the word. Gee, sure sounds like he appreciates … Read more
I had to deal with the sociopath today because he visited my son this weekend. I hate those weekends! Sociopath has been testing boundaries lately by calling my phone to inform me of his visitation plans. Our court approved mediation states that he must email me by Wednesday and is not allowed to call me…so … Read more