Don’t Be Afraid to Hit Rock Bottom

As so many of us have learned, recovering from narcissistic abuse is not easy. It’s not a perfect path, either. There are ups and downs. There are breakthroughs and setbacks. It takes years. Sometimes you can feel great for a while, then BOOM! the narcissist notices and makes sure to restart the harassment and smear … Read more

What the court system has taught me about domestic violence

I haven’t been posting much lately because I have been in a great place in life. However, this post is going to be filled with frustrations. It’s not a happy post, but it is reality. There are a lot of us out there who are living with genuine terror, PTSD, anxiety, depression and more after … Read more

Did you make a fool of yourself trying to get your narcissist back after they discarded you?

I did. Well, the first time I did. By the second time I met a narcissist, I had started to gain some healthy boundaries and I kicked him out of my life when I knew he was discarding┬áme. But the first time? Before I had any clue what a narcissist was or how they acted? … Read more

My first relationship with a narcissist destroyed part of me forever

You know, we are supposed to believe that everything gets better again post-narcissist, and that is mostly true; however, I feel like a part of my childish dreams died for good–a bit of idealism, belief in fairy-tales, hope for a soulmate…all kinds of romantic ideas. A therapist once told me that I would heal, but … Read more

Narcissists have a string of crazy exes…but sometimes the victims do too

Earlier I saw a comment that I’ve seen many times in support groups and it inspired me to make a post: I often see advice saying that if a person tells you that they’ve had multiple crazy exes, you should avoid them because they are the problem. There is definitely truth to this. A narcissist … Read more

A good book for understanding narcissists, their tricks, and terms for describing them

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family In the world of narcissist support groups, there are a lot of terms that we get used to using. Phrases like “flying monkeys,” “overt and covert narcissists,” “scapegoat and golden child,” and more. People who are just learning … Read more

Why daughters of narcissists date and marry more narcissists

It is not uncommon for daughters of narcissistic parents to date and marry narcissistic men repeatedly. Unfortunately, people who come from healthy families cannot understand why this would happen to someone. Often times, a woman who has been in an abusive relationship more than once is considered “crazy” or “damaged goods” or people believe she … Read more

I kept apologizing to the narcissist even when I didn’t do anything wrong

I have been organizing everything that happened when I was with my former narcissist sociopath ex. I’m going through all the HELP! messages I sent people and piecing them together to make a timeline and a story of what it was like to be in that hurricane of narcopath terror. In one section, I wrote … Read more

Helpful link about Monica Lewinsky and surviving a smear campaign

Ya think you’ve endured a rough smear campaign at the hands of your ex-narcissist? Your reputation and credibility are being wiped all over the muddy floor in someone’s basement? Monica Lewinsky went through this in front of the entire world and survived! I cannot imagine the pain and stress she has endured. I think I … Read more