Are you dating a narcissist? Five warning signs

A few years ago, I wrote a book called “A Woman’s Guide to Detecting Narcissistic Men: Thirty Tips for Recognizing a Potential Predator.” Here are five of the characteristics you might see if you are dating a narcissistic man with their condensed explanations. To read more, please find the book on Amazon: Number one:  The man who … Read more

Don’t let your guard down with a narcissist or sociopath!

Sometimes, disordered people can act normal, or even nice! Of course we already know this, because the narcissist was probably pretty good when we first met them, or else we wouldn’t have fallen for them, right? Even when they start showing us their true colors, we often cling to the good parts and assume the … Read more

Don’t Be Afraid to Hit Rock Bottom

As so many of us have learned, recovering from narcissistic abuse is not easy. It’s not a perfect path, either. There are ups and downs. There are breakthroughs and setbacks. It takes years. Sometimes you can feel great for a while, then BOOM! the narcissist notices and makes sure to restart the harassment and smear … Read more

What the court system has taught me about domestic violence

I haven’t been posting much lately because I have been in a great place in life. However, this post is going to be filled with frustrations. It’s not a happy post, but it is reality. There are a lot of us out there who are living with genuine terror, PTSD, anxiety, depression and more after … Read more

Did you make a fool of yourself trying to get your narcissist back after they discarded you?

I did. Well, the first time I did. By the second time I met a narcissist, I had started to gain some healthy boundaries and I kicked him out of my life when I knew he was discarding me. But the first time? Before I had any clue what a narcissist was or how they acted? … Read more

My first relationship with a narcissist destroyed part of me forever

You know, we are supposed to believe that everything gets better again post-narcissist, and that is mostly true; however, I feel like a part of my childish dreams died for good–a bit of idealism, belief in fairy-tales, hope for a soulmate…all kinds of romantic ideas. A therapist once told me that I would heal, but … Read more

Narcissists have a string of crazy exes…but sometimes the victims do too

Earlier I saw a comment that I’ve seen many times in support groups and it inspired me to make a post: I often see advice saying that if a person tells you that they’ve had multiple crazy exes, you should avoid them because they are the problem. There is definitely truth to this. A narcissist … Read more

A good book for understanding narcissists, their tricks, and terms for describing them

The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family In the world of narcissist support groups, there are a lot of terms that we get used to using. Phrases like “flying monkeys,” “overt and covert narcissists,” “scapegoat and golden child,” and more. People who are just learning … Read more

Why daughters of narcissists date and marry more narcissists

It is not uncommon for daughters of narcissistic parents to date and marry narcissistic men repeatedly. Unfortunately, people who come from healthy families cannot understand why this would happen to someone. Often times, a woman who has been in an abusive relationship more than once is considered “crazy” or “damaged goods” or people believe she … Read more