False stereotypes of women help abusers get custody

I frequently see negative comments about women, divorce, custody, child support and related topics online. These comments are usually things like “courts favor women,” “women waste all the child support on themselves,” “women cheat men out of their money,” “women use kids as pawns,” “women use false accusations,” and things like that. The other day, … Read more

Yes, good parents can and do lose their children to abusers

If you have spent much time in support groups for abuse survivors, you probably already know this: good parents often lose custody of their children to their abusers. It is sickening, but it is true. The custody battle I endured was a nightmare come true, and the stress of it all probably took years off … Read more

My experience with the narcopath and a psych evaluation

Many people hope a psychological evaluation will help them convince the courts of what the victim already knows–that the abuser is a narcissist or sociopath. The truth is, the same predator that fooled you can fool even the most experienced psychologist when they put on the full show. I thought for sure the narcopath was … Read more

Narcissists are dangerous and deadly to your family’s health

Narcissists do not take anyone seriously but themselves. They do not care about the needs of others, and they do not respect anything you say. No matter how correct you are, they don’t care one bit about YOUR words, your thoughts, or anything you say you want or need for yourself. They only care about … Read more

Gaslighting and manipulation at visitation time

I had to deal with the sociopath today because he visited my son this weekend. I hate those weekends! Sociopath has been testing boundaries lately by calling my phone to inform me of his visitation plans. Our court approved mediation states that he must email me by Wednesday and is not allowed to call me…so … Read more

Shame on Child Support Enforcement Agencies who do not hold deadbeats accountable!

Today, I am outright pissed off and disgusted by our local Child Support Enforcement Agency. They fail my child very badly. It’s outrageous how much they let the narcopath get away with. I know most of us with abusive, narcissistic, sociopathic exes are dealing with deadbeats. It’s in their nature. They don’t meet their responsibilities … Read more

Ten ways a narcissist will control you through your children

If you have a child with a narcissist or sociopath, there are so many horrible things that can go wrong. Unfortunately, having a child makes it harder to escape the narcissist’s games.  You can only protect your boundaries as much as possible and engage as little as possible, but I will be honest, even if … Read more

The narcissist does not want you to escape or be happy

Narcissists love to make us miserable. They enjoy the control they have over our emotions when they bully us, then sometimes play nice, then bully us…. They are in complete control, and we become dependent and desperate for them to just behave themselves. Or…we quit playing their games and leave. Since we can’t change them, … Read more